Going crazy tupsie: :
P >:( :P >:( :( :PHave a freind who sbxh lives with he is agood friend to both of us. He seems to want to tell me things he is doing or saying and I have told him I dont want to know because it has just caused me pain in the past. I can think of plenty of things he is probaly doing on my own which I have questined the stxh about and he say that is not going on I have it all wrong " get that out of your head" . Anyway sometimes I think this freind wants me to know whats going on so I can protect myself, problem is sometimes this freind canbe over sensative and make more out of things than they are.Dont know if I should just face reality that he is carring on with someone or forget about it and move on is the truth always the best thing or is ignorance bliss if the end result will be the same anyway. Sometimes I also think this freind is projecting our problems onto himself because now he says he cant stand him the stxh and sometimes I think he might have an altierior motive (sorry I cant spell). Do I let this freind tell me things or not. I have told him several times that I dont want to hear it if it is going to make me upset but he still continues to indicate he has something to tell. He will start talking and then say " you dont want to know" why bring it up at all then it gets me thinking and crazy!!!!!! cant take it anymore !! I'm tierd of being upset crying and thinking of nothing else!!!!!Help!!!!!
Re:Going crazy teacherwriterguy: I had a situation like this. Right after my stbx left, her aunt (with whom she is very close) called me. All she wanted to do was talk about all the awful things that my stbx MIGHT be doing now that she had left.
I did NOT want to know.
I think it's fair to say, loud and clear, that you do not want to have additional information passed onto you unless it is absolutely a life and death matter. If the friend is a friend, they'll respect the boundary you set.
teacherwriterguy
