Re:Lust + Time = Love ??? Bubba: Hmmm ok then...
Medusa + Bubba = Love
Better? LOL
Re:Lust + Time = Love ??? Bubba: ROFLMFAO!!!!!!!!
Let me guess,,,,,
KFC + Bubba = Love!!!!
Re:Lust + Time = Love ??? clambakesX: [quote author=Daniel link=board=6;threadid=8036;start=0#msg63917 date=1108757462">
People develop that "love" bond after experiencing and working through things together.
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strangely, I'm not able to really "enjoy" until I've seen how someone works through things ... twisted, I suppose.
[quote author=Daniel link=board=6;threadid=8036;start=0#msg63917 date=1108757462">
when you're in a new relationship, when do you know to call it off, or to work on it and see if it develops into something more.
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good question ... for me, it's seeing how they work on things. in my ex's case, I had my little standard measuring sticks, like camping and dealing with my family. he was great there, but my pre-fab yard stick didn't go a lot of places that would have told me about long-term potential. so I ignored a lot of red flags that were new to me, and focused on how well he'd done on the little litmus tests I'd previously thought were key.
now, based on the way Rebound Guy handled conflict and then ended things, I'm not too sure it would ever have had real-life potential. granted, I singled him out for some reasons that don't match my ultimate life goals. I'm open to being persuaded, but he didn't try to persuade - he just alternated between begging and trying to boss me around. no-go.
I'm trying to toss the yardstick and go with the gut feelings Christy alludes to. that's a pretty steep challenge for me. there are a few guys who's calls/mails I havent returned, because I'm just not sure where I am for myself at the moment. probably when I'm good and ready, there won't be anyone calling ...
Re:Lust + Time = Love ??? lemondrop: Maybe the equation is...
deep friendship + desire to have exclusive sex = love
But it might not be a healthy relationship...
And it might not last...
All you can really do is hope you find a great friend who wants to sleep with only you and then hope it lasts...
Or take Bubba's advice - it's pretty sound... : )
Re:Lust + Time = Love ??? browngreen: Daniel,
Love is when you care about someone else AS MUCH AS you care about yourself.
When you are happiest when they are happy and vice versa.
Not when you care more about them than about yourself, and not when you are looking out for number one.
When you can enthusiastically support their decisions, and make decisions together.
So, I don't beleive in love at first sight.
Looking back on my H, we had the chemistry going and the recreating gene in common. We were playmates in love and adventure. We had similar alter-egos.... but looking back, that wasn't love.
I cared about his needs more than my own, and he cared about his needs more than mine.
(He was working on doing our taxes today and called to ask me when his step-son's birthday is, and didn't know how to spell his middle name...) For example!
Not that I'm by any means an authority on the subject, but...I hope that helps.
BG
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