Re:Just did adumb thing tupsie: OK he just emails me and says shes fighting sending me a nice message . Not really understanding what she has to be so upset about . She knows we are still married and up till a couple of months ago was still at home. Maybe my message to her hit a nerve I heard she is a jealous person.
Re:Just did adumb thing atalose: Not that I'm saying it's alright or even handeling the situation in an adult manner but sometimes you just need to vent and get them terrible thoughts out. It releases some of that pent up, wound up, gut wrenching feelings free. Now I might of said them things to a friend about the other woman if I was in that situation but sometimes you let loose and even makes you feel good at the time, and, afterwards yea you end up feeling guilty for lashing out. But hey to me its understandable, just wish I could speak my mind more at times like that......everyone at one point has done the same so dont let it eat at you......Just think....."hey, Sh!t Happens, and that was your moment".
Re:Just did adumb thing kimura321: I don't know- when a bomb gets dropped on you sometimes you just have to lash out- it's like when you hit your thumb by accident with a hammer and screamm out a random cussword- probably unneccesary, but it gets out some of the pain. Unfortunately the aftermath is sometimes a bit difficult.
The way I see it, at the begginning of when you have been bent over by the ex- getting it all out can be good- but after a time if you are still in contact really try repairing the bridges- at least to get a piece of mind and move on- I feel if the person is an adult and the venting doesn't perpetually continue- it will all be water under the bridge- Heck, look at it on a big scale- we went to war with england for or independence- bow we're allies- we went to war with Germany- now we're allies. I figure if nations can bury the hatchet- maybe people can too.
please don't rip on me too hard if my analogy sucked.
Re:Just did adumb thing rhondam71: I personally don't think you're an idiot. Where exactly is it written that your STBX could run out on you and your son but you should hold your P's and Q's? Yes it was lashing out and not "nice"...WHO CARES? You said that he's been civil since walking out on you and your son...what's so civil about that? Chalk your actions up to anger, fear, whatever else emotion(s) you were feeling and let it go. He has a hell of a lot more to apologize for...he's lucky you offered any kind of an apology.
Good Luck!
