Re:frustrated tupsie: What the he!! is wrong with these men? I was atotal worry wart during our marraige thinking"hes late what has happend to him?" then Iwould get mad too. Now I wonderif he was with someone the whole time even befor we started to have problems. God they can never come clean. I could never do that to anyone much less someone you are suppose to love . Stop worrying it is not worth it . I know easier said than done . Wprry about yourself.
Re:frustrated willow78: Man your story sounds just like mine!! my stbx was always a homebody, and then when he told me he might want a divorce, he started leaving all the time, sometimes like at 7:00 at night saying he was going "shopping". He never ever did that before! And whenever he came home, he would tell me what he did, and be really loving to me. Of course I knew he was lying, but I let him believe I belived him, hoping he would stop it. He kept telling me that there was still hope and that he hadn't filed papers yet. And then he did file papers and he kept saying "I can stop it any time". Now that I have moved out, he wants us to be best friends and tells me maybe in the future we can start over again. He was seeing someone long before I moved out, I knew it but I turned my head to it. I confronted him about it and of course he denied it, and he still does to this very day. He has since admitted he is seeing someone, but claims it didn't start until I moved out. I hold onto hope because he makes me! He comes over and helps me, he e-mails me, he tells me things that are going on in his life, He keeps me close to him for some reason, so how am i suppossed to not have hope? I love him so much it kills me!! :-\
Re:frustrated A002702: Ladies,
Please dont think it is only the men that do this type of thing. My wife came in at 4:30 in the morning and would tell me some stupid story of where she was, but come to find out she was screwing the owner of a bar after hours. Pool table? Bar stool? How degrading, Iknow she had no respect for me when she did this but how about herself?
CD
Re:frustrated minneapolis: Before it happened to me, I'd listen to friends' stories and insist there was another woman even though they'd deny it. Then it happened to me and I believed my husband when he said there wasn't another woman, that he just fell out of love. Discovered 2 days ago that there is in fact another woman. I'm back to my original theory: There is ALWAYS another woman. Sorry, but the sooner you accept it, the sooner you get over it. Regardless, you deserve better.
Re:frustrated clb: Thank all for the advice. I am trying to worry about only me now, but it is hard not to. I hope there really is not another woman, but of course I seem to be in denial of everything else in my life, so why not this too. I truelly believe that he just can't stand to be around me and does what ever he can to avoid it. This hurts just as much, since I have given him my whole life. I know it is not me, and that he has his own internal problems to work out, but it hurts so much that someone that I have loved and still love could be so cruel, unkind and unemotional about me.
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