tossed aside!! willow78: How do you get over the feeling of being tossed aside like an old shoe? I feel like i was so easily replaced, like he exchanged one for the other!I could never do that to him because my love for him runs to deep! It's like I was replacable. I always thought I meant more to him than that! i feel like I mean nothing and am a piece of garbage to him. Like he thinks she is better than me, when I know she isn't. I hate thinking that he thinks that. I respected him and had him on a pedastol, to me he was my knight in shining armor, just being in the same room with him brought me joy. He would tell me he felt the same way, but then he tossed me aside!!!!!! >:(
Re:tossed aside!! kellekae: I have a bit of a philosophy on this stuff. First, would you want to be the kind of person who can toss someone else aside? Second, what kind of person is he? that he can do that so easily? So either, he isn't doing it easily...or he is and that makes him self-centered and uncaring. Someone who wants a divorce, etc. who genuinely thinks of others wouldn't and won't be cruel and careless of others. Simple fact, actions speak way louder than words which equates to...it isn't you! It's him...big hugs!
Re:tossed aside!! tupsie: :'(
Your feelings sound exactly the same as mine. After 16 years I feel like I'm being replaced like it meant nothing at all.Just like you said garbage . I know exactly what your going through and I think we both deserve better treatment.
Re:tossed aside!! Ian: I know exactly how you feel too. Mine said that she "could do better" than me after she got a high paying job and lost all of her pregnancy weight very quickly. She just wanted to "start over" and discard me like a piece of garbage because she "just wasn't attracted to me anymore." Everything she says she hates about me are all things she used to like and furthermore, she tries to act like I was the one who "changed" when it is obvious to anyone that she is the one who became arrogant and selfish - the very things she accuses me of being!
I'd like to have the attitude that it's her loss but that is very hard right now, made especially more so because we have a beautiful two year old daughter who I do not want to grow up in a broken home like I did.
Re:tossed aside!! soTiredOfHurting: There are some things about people that we just will not know. The reality is also that we may really not want to know what they are thinking. It seems like a common thread here, just this weekend I told the STBXW that I feel used, like I had outlived my purpose and was casually tossed aside after the desicions that I made out of love and the things I put on the line for our relationship.
We all took a gamble on our partners, and sadly it looks like we all lost on this one. I am just looking to not repeat it again. I could never treat someone like we have been treated. I would never want them to experience the depths of pain that I know I have, and others like me have.
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