Re:I feel so stupid whoamI: I understand how you feel. I understand feeling stupid for not being aware of the situation. I also understand the feeling of revenge. However you know as well as I did that you are NOT stupid and revenge is not going to change the situation. Now what you said about cancelling the cards when he goes on vacation, that in my opinion is a good call. You shouldn't pay for his getaway. If he and she suffers while there for lack of funds, well great! I truely am sorry for what you are going through.
Re:I feel so stupid NoEscape: I really like spectrums idea. I dont think you have anything to lose. When I found out my wife was having an EA I could not keep it in for a second. I immediately confronted her and we fought for weeks...we have reconciled...very happily I may add but it sounds as if your husbands relationship *may* be more serious. Truth be told though....once my wife realized that I truly loved her--she didnt want to lose me and was willing to do anything to make it work. Not sure if your husband would feel the same. But still--confront him...let them know you know. No point in pretending at this point. You have found a great group for support. Good luck and keep us updated.
