The highs are so Redhead33: The highs are so high and the lows are so low. I just want to feel like myself again.
Today I feel the worst that I have in a really long time. Why am I letting this happen to me? Why can't I stop it? I just want to feel good about myself and I have no idea how to. I want to make myself a better stronger person but I don't know how! I am so angry with myself.
Re:The highs are so BigRunner493: hey red,
i think we've all been there.
don't try to change too quickly. i think a gradual transition back to normal will be more beneficial than an instant fix. i think looking for an instant fix will just result in a relapse. we need to remember these times just to keep us planted in reality.
it will change eventually. let your body tell you when it's ready. until then, i think normal periods of grieving are normal and healthy.
the lows suck, but not to have them wouldn't be normal.
tc,
br
Re:The highs are so paul76: Red,
I can totally sympathize with you on that one. I am feeling the EXACT same way today. Maybe it is just the crappy weather, who knows. It just seems like things are never going to get better.
Dont be angry with yourself, emotions are complex things and I feel that we truely only have a limited ability to control them.
Just keep telling yourself things will get better....or if youve seen Nemo.....Just keep swimming! :)
Re:The highs are so ukchap: Hi Red
If it is any consolation ... I am having one of those "Low Days" as well ....
My mind seems to have gone into overdrive and bittersweet thoughts and feelings of dread are whirling around in my head ..
6 weeks now and no contact whatsoever ... I could be dead .. she could be dead .... what the f*** is the purpose in alll of this mess ...
Time to summon up Johm Wayne type attitude again
otherwise I may be tempted to make contact with her
That could be a huge mistake or should I give it one last attempt to see if this is what she really wants ..
My head is spinning ...
UK Chap
Re:The highs are so CoryL: We all go through a process. Usually it is similar for every different person. The biggest difference is the timeframe. Each of us heals at a different speed.
What will help speed up the healing process is emotional and mental therapy, much like physical therapy helps speed up recovery from a pyhsical injury.
Don't dwell on the bad times that have occured as they will only make you angry or sad. Don't dwell in the good times for too long either, for they will do the same thing. The past is the past. It is behind you and you cannot change it.
All you can do is work with the time you have coming to you. Each new moment is a new opportunity. Find things that you enjoy and do them.
For me, it has been physical exercise, work, playing music, being with friends, reading and writing. Especially the exercise. I really believe that our physical, emotional, and mental are all tied together. If we work on one, it effects the others. If we don't work on one, it effects the others.
As humans we are capable of both great and terrible things. We are capable of unbelievable strength and extreme weakness. Everything has an opposite. For all the highs there are lows. For all the smiles there are tears. And for all the hate there is love. For all the pain there is pleasure. For all the bad is good.
When we are at our most vulnerable, our most exposed, we can find out who we really are.
"My biggest fear will be the rescue of me
Strange how it turns out that way, yeah." -- Incubus
Keep your head up Katie, your strength will find you when you need it.
Cory
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