Re:My Story Redhead33: Welcome. I think that you both will find the people on these boards very helpful! I wish that I had advice to give but to be honest I'm a mess myself. THere are good days and bad days. Slowly the good are beginning to outweigh the bad though!
Best of luck!
Re:My Story jencderby: I have said the exact same thing - "This can't be MY life!" I'm supposed to have a normal life - whatever that is??
Do you want to have kids? You sound like a wonderful person and I'm sure that if you want kids you'll find someone who has the same morals and ideas about life that you do. At least that's what I keep telling myself.
Do you think they marry someone because they hope that the disease will just go away? Somehow if they love someone enough that can just fix the problem?
The bad days are terrible, but I'm hoping this board will help ease the pain just a little.
Re:My Story jencderby: feelingdown,
Can you explain (at least a little bit) what being a sex addict is like? I just really don't understand it. Even though I know that it is a terrible illness, I have a hard time believing it's not just a convenient excuse. That probably sounds very cold, I'm just struggling with not taking this personally. How is it not personal?
Is it possible for a sex addict to ever be happy sexually with just one person for the rest of their life? Or is it inevidable that they will stray?
I don't want to bombard you with questions, I'm just so confused and am looking for anything to help me understand.
On a hopeful note for you - the loneliness does go away (I've been divorced before so I have an idea of what this is like). That burning desire to pick up the phone just to hear his/her voice does go away. But the best medicine for depression is to make yourself get out. It may seem like a horrible thought at times, but it always helps a little.
I hope your days start getting better!
Re:My Story rcmorrison: I too am new to this site. I'm 35yrs old and going through my 2nd divorce. Why me? I keep asking this question to myself daily.
My first marriage was to a soldier in the Army and it lasted nearly 13yrs. My second marriage was to an older man (51yrs old) who had been married twice before and had 2 sons from both marriages. He was a part-time dad and worked all the time, but the sad part about this marriage was that it only lasted 2 months.
My last marriage ended over a lie told by his younger son and my husband would not allow me to defend my actions. His son is 13yrs old and is manipulative just like his mother (my husband's 2nd wife).
I left my new home in Wisconsin and drove back to Texas. My last husband was not understanding at all and didn't see the sacrifices I had made to become his new wife and stepmom to his kids.
I left a VERY good job in Dallas, TX (I was an Investment Banker for JPMorgan Chase). Owned a nice home filled with expensive furniture purchased from my travels overseas, and left my family, but he didn't see any of this because it wasn't important to him.
Don't get me wrong, I still love him very much and I pray that he realizes the mistake, but I feel that it's too late for me. He filed for divorce right before Christmas and our date is coming up soon for this marriage to end.
I don't hold any animosity towards him, but if he never calls me again, I still pray for him and his family because I know that God will provide to me, someone who will love me and respect me as I am.
