Re:Timespan to heal LostTeacher: one thing that people are not telling you, is that you need to grieve. you need to feel bad, and sad and depressed, and all the things that people are telling you to get over. the thing is, to be able to move on, you need to feel these things. i have been seperated for almost 4 months, and it has gotten easier in some respect, but more difficult in others. i still miss him, and miss spending time with him. i am still not used to being on my own. but i have gained some things. i know that i can take care of myself. before this happened, i had never spent more that one night sleeping by myself. was always with either him or family. now, i am living in an apartment alone. i can take care of myself physically and mentally. i know when i should stay alone, and when i need to be with others. and i am actually kind of thankful for that. but that doesn't stop the missing. we are human, and we are supposed to grieve when we lose something. it doesn't make it better, but it makes it easier to deal with when we know that is what is supposed to happen.
