Re: BEING ASKED TO GO SOMEWHERE grober: I'd go if I were you. My brother invited me to dinner with his wife and some of their friends a while ago. At first I was hesitant, but then I figured I'd give it a try. This was one of the first new social situations I'd been in since my divorce. Up until then I was basically on my own all the time.
Well, I didn't expect to have too great a time, but it was actually pretty fun. Seeing other people like that helped me realize there was a new side to my life that I'd ignored for years. Now I'm always looking for new opportunities to meet new people.
You are in a transitional period so feeling a little "abnormal" is completely natural. Your brother knows you're going through a tough time. I doubt he expects you to come along and be the life of the party. Just be yourself. You may have a little fun. Even if you don't you can take pride in the fact that you gave a new experience a chance.
Good Luck.
Re: BEING ASKED TO GO SOMEWHERE achingallover: o.k., guys, I'm gonna go against the grain a little bit here and say take inventory of what you really want and if you are too distraught and can't go, don't go. The reason I say this is because I have gone to several functions since my stbx has told me he wanted a divorce. I had a good time, partially, but one night in particular trigger a serious crying fit. The other event I went to, a concert, was nice but painful. I was having a hard time not crying the whole night becuase I kept thinking here I am in a huge group of people and I have never in my life felt so alone. While the events were great, I just was so distrught being at them because I was in such pain. I guess no one can tell you what you need to do. I am constantly falling in the crack of "honoring my pain" or "pushing myself to bounce back". I can't make this decision for you, about going or not going. Only you can make that. But I"m sure whatever it is, it will be the right one for you. who knew this would all be to tricky?!
