Re:Divorced dad dealing with ex wife's boyfriend dazedanddivorcing: Fatherof3,
Is there some place that you can meet to pick up the kids? Maybe McDonalds or something like that?
The guy sounds like an @ss looking all smug and stuff like that.
Hang in there.
One more idea, do you have a friend that go with you to pick up your kids--maybe a cute little girlfriend, just kidding, but it could be a thought...
Dazed
Re:Divorced dad dealing with ex wife's boyfriend Hawk05: Keep your head up. You are the 'father' of the children -- not him. Go about your business and remember -- you are there for your children; not for your ex and definitely not for him.
I do like the suggestion of making an arrangement with your ex to meet at a neutral spot. Each time you visit that house you will be reminded of him and you will have a difficult time moving forward.
I like this saying: "If we live in the past, tomorrow will never come." For you my friend, you are being put through an experience over and over again that you are obviously stuggling with -- and with good reason.
Just remember, they are YOUR children. And you are there for them. Finding a neutral meeting ground would save you the pain and frustration of 're-living' a situation you don't want to or need to deal with.
Re:Divorced dad dealing with ex wife's boyfriend AmyMarie1972: If you cant make arrangements to pick up your kids from somewhere else or your ex wont drop them off to you and you do still have to pick your kids up from hers I know that it is tough to supress the feelings of anger that you have towards this other guy but for your chioldrens sakes you have to. This is probably going to be difficult for you but the reason this guy is hanging around giving you the smug grin is because he can see that it is gettitng to you. He is jealous of you. Of course he is you are the father to his partners children which makes you a more important part in the scheme of things than him. You have got to let it show that he does not get to you, that you know your importance and that you couldn't care less if he is around or not. Smile back at him. Even nod to him maybe even asking are you alright? This will completely throw him. After a while of this he will stay out of your way because he will see that he is not getting to you anymore.
Hope things work out for you and good luck
Re:Divorced dad dealing with ex wife's boyfriend lewis0416: I don't know all of the facts but I do know this. My stbx said I was unhealthy for him and we needed a lot of time away from each other. He now has a GF which I think he was seeing during our marriage. Well, when he comes to pick up the kids I don't think I should make arrangements to make my BF disappear. If it hurts him tooo bad, so sad. He is the one who wanted the divorce. As for if his GF is there when I pick up the kids, I could care less. I will thank her for "taking out the trash".
Re:Divorced dad dealing with ex wife's boyfriend raistlynne: LOL ;D I never thought of thanking the new gf for taking out the trash!
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