Re:stbx is wigging out ratchet5: Well, today I get up, check my mail, and the income tax check and all of my other mail is in my mailbox. On the envelope of the tax check he wrote, "Keep it all, do whatever you want, It doesn't really matter anyway"
What is up with that? I would never do that to him. So I take it to the bank, cash it just like I said I would, and drop his off in his mailbox, along with a 68$ check from me for my half of the car insurance.
Within an hour I have an email that says THANK YOU!!!
B, Thank you! I will give you 200-300$ on the 21st of March. Sorry about the psychosis and everything!!
What is up with him, I told him 3-4 times I was gonna give him half of it, and I did. He was so hateful for a week, and then grateful I did what I said I would do. But then just says sorry for all the names and hateful things he said to me!! I mean I appreciate the apology, but why did he do it in the first place? My God, I am so freaking confused!! I really think he needs some mental help. He has had to be on meds 3-4 times in the last 13 years for depression, but I don't even know this person!! He is totally different, and I'm not sure whether to try to help him, or just leave him alone. Any ideas?
Re:stbx is wigging out Chey: Hi Ratchet,
This sounds like a pretty horrible situation alround. I have to agree with Gumby that your ex is probably not only dealing with feelings of guilt, but also a "the grass is greener" scenario. On one hand he's got the responsibility of a family, bills, every day life, and on the other a 22 year old "free and easy living" girl who expects nothing from him but hearts and flowers. You represent everything he knows he should be taking care of...and has dropped the ball on.
Depression? Absolutely....he certainly sounds like he is having a break down of some sort, and is dragging you with him. The best thing for your own sanity (and his) is to remain as logical and methodical as possible. Follow your friends advice and go with a lawyer. Internet divorces are great if there is no property or children to contend with...in your case i believe you have a child? Certainly it would be better to have someone deal with this so that they can do the clear thinking for you.
Best of luck, and know you're dealing with this the best way you can. Let him try do the same thing. You may not agree with it, and eventually HE may not agree with how he handled things, but let him come to that realisation on his own.
Chey
