Re:New Found Insecurities Safetykc: Allo Allo mon petit sunflower,
A little birdie told me you had posted and I read your post and had this whole reply formulated until I red JimB's post.
He really hit the nail on the head with this one. I have known you a while now and I wouldn't worry to much about the behavior you described as long as you RECOGNIZE the behaviour and talk it out with M.
I think more than being solely caused by your Divorce these things could be just a part of your personality and might never go away. Which isn't a bad thing as long as you, as Jim says, catch it and try to stop it when it happens or apologize and talk it out with your sweetie afterwards.
I do the same thing sometimes, you remember how alike we were on THAT one ::) and have to make a concerted effort not to self-sabotage and pick fights, etc.
But so does my honey, When you are stressed from life, work, kids, traffic, parents, mailman, you name it, its easy to sublimate that stuff and take it out on those you care about, but if you see the pattern and try to work through it you are fine. It's when you don't see it or think you are fine and the other person is crazy that you can get into trouble.
I am so HAPPY for you and M and can't wait for the invite to the housewarming! ;D
Talk to you soon, give me a call, I'm back from Sunny Floreeeeeda.
So, have a Crumb on me and STOP overanalyzing everything. You are doing GREEEEEEAAAATT!!!
E
