Re:am feeling anger now :( dazedanddivorcing: Exclusive,
I feel you. This whole mad then sad thing sucks.
I don't have any advice though, just hope it gets better for you.
How long has it been?
Re:am feeling anger now :( Dino: sorry for the time lag...other side of the world and all
being angry can be better than being sad. just dont act on your anger. i had so many horrible things i wanted to say to my ex and things i wanted to do to get back at her right after it happened. sometimes I still think about what i could/should do.
i have taken a little comfort in trying to be a big man about it. i havent flamed her once, i havent told her to get f*#ked. i havent phoned her or tried to see her. i havent tried to stop her with her new guy. ultimately anything i had done would have left her thinking i was an arse and that she was better off without me. maybe she is, the truth is i dont know because i havent spoken to her. i just told her i couldnt have anything to do with her after she had left me for someone else. not nice exactly, but civil at least.
you have the right idea. dont be her friend. you dont deserve to be hurt anymore and she should understand that
Re:am feeling anger now :( Bocephus: I don't know if this is good advice but....
If you know in the deepest part of your heart that things are not going in your favor, (even though until it is done, done you will tell yourself there is a chance) you might just want to say those things to her (in a more effective, strategic choice of words). I got upset last night and said about 45 minutes worth of stuff to my stbxw. I think she got upset at me but it was all stuff I needed to say and had been holding inside in fear of driving her away even further. Fact is, I felt a huge sense of relief afterwards. I also felt kind of bad because I'm not use to talking to her like that. Afterwards though, new me.
Re:am feeling anger now :( annastarlet: i got everything out to my ex and i feel better for it. He knows where i stand. he knows we will not be friends.
the odds of us never speaking again are very slim. The odds of us renewing a romantic relationship are about 50/50 i feel...so i think even if she does come crawling back to you and you end up taking her back or you decide to be her friend, you NEED to get all of the unresolved anger out.
Re:am feeling anger now :( allmixedup: Anger is like the second phase of the grieveing process. Perfecly normal. I remember going through that where I just completely hated my ex and wanted to tear her head off every day. It does fade, but it is a difficult thing to go through. Don't worry man, it is all part of the process. It means you are moving along. It might not help much, but it is true.
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