Re:Hey...newbie with all the ?s 'n no answers joeykttn: yeeeeessssssssssssss!!!!!!! Finally, proof that I'm not just heartless. It's nice to know someone out there feels the same way I do.
Thanks guys for making me feel so welcome... it's a long needed relief :)
CP.. if you don't mind me askin'.. how are your kids dealin' with it? Mine aren't his, but he's raised her since she was 8 mths practically. (sp?) She's havin' a rufff time. And my 10 year old son is completly mean, smart mouth, and impossible to deal with... I know this is probably normal, but omg, it's hard to keep your cool.. *sigh*
Re:Hey...newbie with all the ?s 'n no answers CPmommy: Oh, yes, the kids! Well, they are OK as long as he's not around. They can sense the tension when he's around and then just completely wig out. My 6 year old has become a real smart mouth himself - even telling his dad, "Why don't you just leave?" when he sees that he's bothering me. We've got him seeing a social worker at school to try and deal with it a little better. The 2 year old, of course, has no idea what's going on, just knows that something is not right.
The funny thing is, when it's just us at home, we have a great time. Reading books, doing puzzles, watching TV, whatever. Then he comes around and it's like *bam*, total mood change and they are just out of control. I'm trying to discuss this with him, to see that he can't do what he's doing in front of them, but he doesn't want to hear it. THAT's the hardest part.
I had a tremendous amount of guilt for this very reason and my counselor (that I've been seeing for about six months) told me that the most important thing is that they see me happy. They are learning from me.....learning about how marriages should and shouldn't be. And he said that if I'm OK and show them that and give them lots of love, they'll be OK, too. It's just so hard in the middle of it all to see the big picture.
