Re:Hey...newbie with all the ?s 'n no answers teacherwriterguy: From reading your second note, it does sound more serious! Trust seems to be the underlying factor (isn't it always for most of us!) -- especially because some of those choices he's making push the boundaries of whether you can trust him, whether he can be trusted around others. It doesn't sound like just a case of looking at something and being done - he's pushing the edge of what it means to interact with something, and that can definitely be "not okay"!
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Re:Hey...newbie with all the ?s 'n no answers joeykttn: Jenni Cole... I understand that alot of people see no problem with porn, and to each thier own. I'm not saying its a bad thing, I think it just depends on the individual situation and people involved, ya know? And I suppose the real issue is ths..if you are with someone who's not secure enuf to deal with it, then you should respect that. Of course, an addiction makes respect not an issue anyways... and my daughter is 5.. don't worry, you can't say anything to me that I haven't already thought, and I'm not offended.. I actually am glad that people are having something to say to me :)
Re:Hey...newbie with all the ?s 'n no answers Jennicole: i really do think to each his own. im not going to tell you, hey i like porn and so should you. thats not the case. i do beleive, however, that if it is something that makes you feel insecure, and you dont like it, your partner should have the decensy(sp) to respect that, try to compromise with you on it. if there is no compromise, and it is something you truly cant live with, he should cut it out. porn is not like air, no one NEEDS it to survive.
Re:Hey...newbie with all the ?s 'n no answers joeykttn: lol..i just saw the edit in my first post... sorry :)
Anyone else ever feel like being a cold hearted and uncaring and unremorseful person was the only way to get someone to realize you are serious?
Re:Hey...newbie with all the ?s 'n no answers CPmommy: Joeykttn,
I am dealing with just about the same issues that you are right now. My STBX of 7 years is an alcoholic/drug addict, supposedly recovering. I say supposedly recovering because I've been through this so many times with him it makes my head spin. I do not believe a word the man says. We have two sons, 6 and 2, and I finally decided that enough was enough. All that came out of his mouth was lies. He was bringing drugs into the house, driving after drinking with the kids in the car. He's swearing up and down that he's changed for good this time. I don't believe him. I don't trust him. And it's too little, too late for me. Too much water under the bridge. It's like a switch has been flipped inside me and I can't get it back.
He, too, vascillates between being over-friendly and wanting to help with the kids and the house......then he turns into a serious a$$hole, threatening me, yelling at the kids, throwing things, etc.......He's been out of the house now for 8 weeks and, let me tell you, it's been the best eight weeks of my life.
I feel like I have to be a complete and total b*&ch, though, because, if I'm friendly at all, he takes it the wrong way and thinks we're getting back together. He definitely has not accepted the fact that I'm serious about this and IT'S HAPPENING.
Sorry this turned out to be so long! Just wanted to let you know that you're not alone. I know how stressed out you must be, and add to that a pregnancy! God bless you, girl! And feel free to PM me anytime if you need to talk!
CP
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