Re:~Sometimes It Just Really Hurts~

Re:~Sometimes It Just Really Hurts~ teacherwriterguy: [quote"> Just makes it hard to have them do this to me...I am going through a hard time already, now is when I need them the most![/quote">

Absolutely.

For instance, I think - in his own way - my father was trying to be supportive of me by throwing in his two cents about how awful my stbx was - but it ended up making me feel worse than better.

Sometimes, I think the best thing family members can do is say, "What do you need from us? We're here."

That having been said - though ojar isn't family -

What do you need from us? We're here.

twg
Re:~Sometimes It Just Really Hurts~ CPmommy: AWWWW, TWG - that was SOOOOO sweet!

Re:~Sometimes It Just Really Hurts~ OldSchool: SE,

Well I've known you for a little while on here and know that you'll get through this because it's something you feel strongly about. Even if others don't agree with what you're doing, it doesn't mean that they won't be there for you. I can only wish you the best as you continue to heal and learn about yourself and decide what the next steps will be.

OS

Re:~Sometimes It Just Really Hurts~ Sad Eyes: TWF~ Wow! That was really sweet! Thanks! I think my family is bad talking my stbx for the same reasons too. It doesn't make it any better does it? If anything, it makes you want to defend them more and almost try to prove them wrong in way. Either way...it's my decision and I need to make this for myself. Like I said...I have never had to make such a hard decision in my life. Just have to make sure I am doing the right thing. Time will tell.

So.....what do I need from ojar? Support!!! And Yeah...I know I have it! Thanks so much!!! :D

OS/Vino~ Thanks! I needed to hear that. Just listen to my gut, think with my head and feel with my heart. I hope it works! ;)

Thanks again you guys!!!

Re:~Sometimes It Just Really Hurts~ jen: ((((((((((((((((SE))))))))))))))))) Sending you lots and lots and lots of hugs.

I think it takes incredible strength of character and will to see through all the possibilities, to stick to who you are and what you believe. YOU ARE THAT STRONG! At the end of the day, you will be able to look yourself in the mirror and feel good about whatever decision that you have made and be glad that you trusted yourself to get through this the best way you know how. If you did it anybody elses way, it wouldn't be right...for you.

If it helps any, know that all their misguided intentions come from a place of love and that they probably just hate seeing you hurt. I'm sure they don't get that they are adding hurt when they make judgments or try to tell you how they think you should proceed.

And, in about a month...we will all be having a good time in Chicago ;D

I agree w/ TWG...just let us know what you need. You have been here for all of us so many times...

You will get through this!

more hugs,

mtmo

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