Re:Horrible question... in_search_of: Thanks Christy!
You know, I said I was retiring from this place one day, and here I am posting away. However, I have an excuse because well, ummmm, I am in an evidence bar review, and listening to it and posting away like a mad woman...I am learning a whole bunch though!
Christy, you and I have the same diseases when it comes to relationships, and we are/were dating cops too if I remember right...goofy us!
Re:Horrible question... skavachi: I don't see new relationships as more disposable than they were before I got married. I do, however, see personality flaws much easier than I had before. I suppose I was a little too trusting of people's weaknesses. I am more willing now, more than ever, to walk if I see anything that really distresses me. Guess I am at a point where I know that there is not one person on the planet that will make me whole. Where as before I was looking for someone to make me happy.
My hand, my mind, and a good porn will do fine! ;D
Re:Horrible question... allmixedup: Hey Skav, don't forget the beer dude. Make it a truly romantic evening. 8) ???
I don't think relationships are more disposable. In fact, I learned to much from my failed marriage that I can't wait to be able to have that special relationship where I can put the things I learned into play. I am not going to let the fact that I got divorced ruin my perception of marriage and spending my life with that someone special.
Re:Horrible question... DarrenB: All very great posts and answers. I can ditto quite a few of them. Like many.... the divorce and the investment involved, and the fact that I am 35 has given me a pretty good idea of what I want out of my next partner, whenever that will be. And now that I am out of the marriage I was in...it is as obvious as hell why we were not right for each other.
I have learned more about myself and my wants and needs in the last year than I have ever learned before and I now know what what will be a good match for me and what won't.
This is probably why 10 months after the divorce proceedings I have yet to get into a relationship and have barely dated. I guess in my case the "disposable realationship" aspect does not really apply because I am trying to make sure I dont end up in that kind of situation.
Like others have mentioned though, once the time comes and the right woman comes along I will probably work harder to make sure that some of the same mistakes that occured in my marriage do not occur in the new relationship. And with the experience and independence I have gained through the divorce I am pretty confident that I could choose the right type of person for me this time :)
