HELP! I need advice tupsie: :oI have a friend who my stxh lives with. Sometimes he has indicated that ther are things he thinks I should know or wants to tell me about my stbxh.I have told him that I cant deal with any more pain or hurt and dont want to know because the e nd result will be the same any way( a divorce). Why should I suffer any more? I also email my sister in-law to ask her if there is any thing she knows that she thinks I should know she said no and shewould tell me if she did . I beleive her . I told her that I dont trust him any more and that he has sweared to me that he is not sleeping with some one. She said back that she would want to know the truth and part of her thinks that she has been liedto by her brother and this other person. My question I guess is do I let the freind tell me everything and beupset and hurt or do I just let it go and try to get on with my life?
Re:HELP! I need advice bamababe: Tupsie,
That's a tough one. I'd probably opt for knowing. If it's bad could mean better closure (in addition to pain). You just don't know what's behind the curtain. It really depends on your personality. I was the kind of kid who opened presents early...so if you're the kind of person who's inquisitive you'll probably want to know.
Good luck!
BB
Re:HELP! I need advice browngreen: This is a tough one.
Well, it doesn't matter insofar as the end result since you're getting divorced anyway. But yeah, I guess I'd tend to think of it as getting all the hurt overwith at once so there wouldn't be the chance for any unpleasant suprises later on. Also, it might just shed new light into the situation or new light on the person you're married to. As in, it could maybe explain a lot.
BG
Re:HELP! I need advice Sad Eyes: Tupsie~
You tell your stbxh's friend to not tell you BUT you go to your sil and try to get her to tell you if she knows anything. You sound confused. You need to sit down and really think about this and ask yourself what is it going to help if you find out? Are you sure you want a divorce? If it's yes....then let it go and get the divorce on it's way. If it's no....then find out what the friend is having a hard time holding in. If you think you guys stand a chance you need to know...if not, don't worry about it.
Good luck!
