Re:How can people just stop loving justme15: how do you explain depression to your spouse? I went hru it for a long time not knowing that is what it was. I never stopped telling him I LOVED HIM. He put up with it for almost a year before I went to see a doctor. He tried to hold it all together without help from me. When I found out that was why I acted the way I did. I tried to explain to him. He said we would try to fix things but he never came home never called to say where he was. My question is. Was that really tring to fix things?
Re:How can people just stop loving Dino: maybe a year was longer than he could take. i dont know the details. some people cant take the strain. my ex left after 2 months of unhappiness after 6.5 years of relationship. she didnt tell me she was unhappy of course, not until she had found herself a new man.
if he left after you found out what it was then i would say he didnt try. he should have tried again once you were getting treatment.
but then i think people everywhere are just after a quick fix happiness these days. no one wants to put effort in. (ojarian company excluded)
Re:How can people just stop loving down south xhubbie: JM15
First of all, you are to be commended for not encouraging your children to villify your husband.
Here in Georgia, we have to go through parenting classes in order for a divorce to be final. I remember our teacher said that for older children and teenagers the transition is typically more difficult than for younger kids.
For your depression, has your doctor prescribed any antidepressants? I take Wellbutrin. It has very few side effects compared to some of the other antidepressants. The biggest plus to it is that it doesn't make you sleepy.... and also (although it does little good For ME right now) it also has very few sexual side effects ::)
point out to your husband that you are getting help for your depression. Give him some space and pray that he comes to his senses. I really wish there was more, but that's all I know to tell you now. :-\ Also, hang around the boards. You'll find alot of support here.
Re:How can people just stop loving justme15: thanks dino and south. He did leave after finding out what the problem was. You are right also about the time and space. I am finding this out know it has taking a few months, but realized that if I keep pushing him it will push him more away. I also take welbutrin and love it it makes me feel so much better. My kids love that mom is back and all their freinds want me to be their mom...........lol
Had to put little humor in there
thanks again guys
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