Re: questions for both men and women justme15: I went back in may and went for months till I moved away because that is what he wanted. Anyway I have asked for him to go either with me or by hisself. Guess he thinks he is to big for it not sure. I do know that he is hurting me and the kids so bad he has no idea. Maybe he will in a year or two..lol
Sorry should not joke but would loose my mind if I didn't at times you know
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Re: questions for both men and women Chase: Joke away justme! I find myself in the midst of misery suddenly laughing at very odd things. It's good for you, you know! I think it releases good endorphins in the brain!
I'll keep my fingers crossed that he somehow wakes up and sees what he needs sooner rather than later!
Chase
Re: questions for both men and women justme15: Thank you and will do the same for you.
I will keep you guys in my prayers too. every little bit helps
:)
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Re: questions for both men and women jen: Pooh,
I think some people really just don't know how to talk about the tough stuff. My stbxh didn't start talking until after he confessed to the affair...and then it came out like a flood...but his reason for not letting me know how unhappy he was for a long time? He didn't want to hurt me. He didn't get it that he needed to communicate with me for anything to get better. Instead he started shutting me out more and more.
I think no one REALLY teaches us how to navigate the difficult conversations and to talk honestly without badmouthing or blaming...how to talk about problems without it turning into fights or saying unforgiveably hurtful things...
hang in there!
mtmo
Re: questions for both men and women justme15: Thanks mtmo,
The funny thing is that we never had a problem telling each other anything and everything. Untill I got depressed ( didn't know that at first) and said really bad things that I didn't mean at all. I didn't talk to him about how I felt because didn't really think he would understand it all. When I did try all he would say is why can't I have my wife back. Which really hurt cause he wasn't really listening to me.
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