Re:Am I doing the right thing???? joeykttn: If, just because you are civil at a child's party, he thinks you are getting back together, then I beg to differ with his idea of who's in reality and who's not.....with that said, it is YOUR house, and if being there makes you uncomfortable or if it bothers the kids, then I say stick to your guns... you have a responsibility to your kids and your own sanity. Stay strong and know you are not alone!!
Re:Am I doing the right thing???? teacherwriterguy: Can you give him just enough of a reason so that he understands where you are coming from, but then draw the line to avoid being pulled into an argument?
Maybe that would help?
Sounds like a guy who needs crystal clear signals...
twg
Re:Am I doing the right thing???? CPmommy: TWG -
You are absolutely right. He needs VERY clear signals. I'm trying but feeling like I'm being "mean". I'm not very good at that. Oh well. Live and learn, right?
Thanks for all your support, guys.
CP
Re:Am I doing the right thing???? in_search_of: CP, sounds to me like you are doing exactly the right thing! I totally agree with the decision that you are making, not that my opinion on it matters at all really...
I also agree that he seems to have a lacking grasp on reality, and is giving some perfect examples as to why you are not with him anymore!
I mean, he has threatened you, belittled you, shown that he has no respect for your feelings, and has no respect for the fact that you feel a certain way!
[quote"> He's asked me four times, I've told him no four times. He's asked me why and I've said, "Because I don't want you to!" and he says, "That's not a good reason."[/quote">
That is a perfectly good reason! Totally and completely, its your house, and because you don't want him there is a good reason for saying no! For instance, if you had an acquaintaince, and they wanted to stay the night, then of course, because I don't want you to would be a perfectly good reason, so it should be with him, who you are not married to anymore!
Re:Am I doing the right thing???? rcmorrison: I have to agree with all that has been said.
Your STBX needs to realize that you don't need him. You're comfortable the way you are and using scare tactics is mainly for his ego because he's an insecure man.
Go with your GUT and tell him no. We got your back.
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