Re:Do you still believe in love? teacherwriterguy: Yes, I believe that love can and will happen again.
I'm going to go an opposite route than several people on here though.
I no longer believe that I must make a "wiser" choice in love. I think that I distanced and removed myself in my marriage by trying to play it safe, make the smart choice, keep myself protected. As a consequence, I always had one part of myself looking over my own shoulder and it cost the marriage. I wasn't the sole one to blame, but I take ownership of that issue.
When love comes again, I don't want it to be boundaried and laden with warnings and caveats. I did that in my marriage - trying too hard to make the "smart" choice doesn't necessarily lead to a more successful ending.
The next time around, I just want to feel love and enjoy it for what it is, without trying to restrict it and make it come complete with guarantees.
twg
Re:Do you still believe in love? jen: I absolutely believe that love will come into my life again.
I have learned so much from the mistakes that I made and my part in the breakdown of my marriage. I'm with twg, in that I am working very hard to take things as they come and to not try to be in control so much, afraid of what might happen if I let go a little.
You know what I've found? That when I let go and trust, amazing things happen and things still get taken care of! I don't need to hold on so tight...not that I won't treasure love the next time around, but I will give it enough room to grow and flourish.
I have faith in my own capacity to love and to accept love in return.
mtmo
Re:Do you still believe in love? Shanna: I didnt read everyone's responses...I just wanted to say that I never thought I would love again and I do....I love more unconditionally this time....I love more fully...and I don't take anything for granted.
Re:Do you still believe in love? rcmorrison: To be honest, I can live without this kind of love in my life...the love between a man and a woman.
Love has caused me great pain in my life and I'm pretty much afraid of giving my heart to someone again. It's been crushed and mangled by 2 husbands and I just don't have the heart for a 3rd.
For nearly 13yrs, I loved my first husband and sacrificed my career, my goals and dreams for the sake of loving him and all I got from him was shame, bitterness, and the news that he had another family outside our marriage for nearly 2 yrs.
With regards to my second husband, I loved him from the beginning of our friendship in 1998 until we got married in 2004.
I loved him with all my heart and this man chose to uphold the values and beliefs of his former 2nd wife and their son over my own.
I gave up homes, careers, ambitions and goals to give him what he wanted as a wife and stepmom and I got asked to leave our home so that he and his former wife and their kid can become a family again.
Again, all this done in the name of love. I find that love has caused me more pain than good in my life and I can honestly live without love like that.
Re:Do you still believe in love? bamababe: In the words (actually just one word) of Mr. Big:
"Absaf*ckin'lutely"
;D
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