Re:Do you still believe in love? brokenman: I still believe in love. But now I have a better appreciation for it. I won't love blindly again. My ex always used to ask me if I loved her unconditionally. I must honestly say that I never really knew. She claimed to have loved me unconditionally all along and probably still claims it. But what she did with her cheating and leaving sure is confusing.
But I know now that I do not love unconditionally. I may still have love for her after all of that mess, but it isn't the same and never will be. I don't know it by heart, but isn't love patient, kind, gentle, and understanding? I know I can love again and that it not being unconditional makes it no less valid. Would you love someone after they shot you in the face? If they don't shoot you in the face, there isn't a problem.
I guess I am saying that I have learned some boundaries to love. And I am willing and capable of loving someone within those boundaries. I guess the trick will be to remain aware of those boundaries with out obsessing over them and gauging against them constantly.
Re:Do you still believe in love? timetobefree: [quote author=soTiredOfHurting link=board=1;threadid=9003;start=0#msg71209 date=1111006301">
Yes I do. Love didn't go wrong with my situation, just my choice of who to give it to. My love didn't fail me, the person that I gave that gift to did. Love will go on, I will just make a wiser choice in the future of who to give that gift to. That also means that I will take the risk of being hurt again, but it comes with the territory.
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soTiredOfHurting,
Great post! I love it...you are sooo right. I never would have been able to say it the way you said it, but I certainly agree with you. You have hit the nail on the head with this one! Thanks for verbalizing something that was floating around in my head and my heart!!!! ;D
Take care,
Amy ;D
Re:Do you still believe in love? soTiredOfHurting: Amy- Madam, it is my deepest honor to be able to do that for you. (bows low) I am having a banner week with my insights, it is a sign of the healing and the growth that I feel happening. ;D
Re:Do you still believe in love? wingman: love is eternal in all of us. It is stitched into the very fabric of our being.. Part of out "programming, and makeup".. And although right now most of us can't see it happening in our lives anytime soon, ( and may even be very resistant to ever feeling its effects, due to emotional "guarding" ) The fact that we are capable of doing so again is a very encouraging thing, indeed..
With love and the feelings therein there is a learning curve. Its like driving a car , plane, or boat... The first "major accident" or trauma can leave big scars that can take years to heal, and can scare you away from it altogether. we only grow into better handlers, and recipients of anything when we continure to go back and attempt something again.
What if edison, or the wright brothers had simply thrown in the towel after a major failure? We could be living in a very different society right now...
But, I believe that accidents and tradegies can be overcome with the healing of time. And I beliveve if we really examine the causes and contributing factors of the last "accident", we come out enlightened, and a wise veteran that knows what to look for the next time and avoid it...
And to ultimately be more honest with ourselves most of all.. To know our limits, and tolerances..
Do I believe in Love still? Without a doubt... It is real, and a very beautiful thing. Probably the main thing that makes life worth living. It's the ultimate human state..
Right now, I know that I am capable of loving ( to an extent ) But , I also know that I need to, heal, learn, and take to heart the lessons my divorce has to offer, and grow from it. And someday again I'll love and laugh.. But not today, as i'm still learning from it...
I really belive that thru our greatest failures comes the most profound wisdom..
wingman
Its better to have love and lost than to have never loved at all....
Re:Do you still believe in love? timetobefree: [quote author=soTiredOfHurting link=board=1;threadid=9003;start=0#msg71246 date=1111012176">
Amy- Madam, it is my deepest honor to be able to do that for you. (bows low) I am having a banner week with my insights, it is a sign of the healing and the growth that I feel happening. ;D
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WOW, I got called Madam today...must be my lucky day! Glad to hear you are having a banner week; it truly is a sign of growth and healing. Thanks for sharing it with us!
Amy ;D *curtsies in return*
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