a package teacherwriterguy: I've gotten out of the habit of posting details of "my story" for a bit, but I have a detail to add that I'm puzzling over. Thought I'd throw it out there for the community to play with and see what you all said.
Brief review:
My stbx and I separated on Xmas day. The decision to divorce was made right before my birthday on 2/7. My stbx is out of state in AZ now, living with another man she says is platonic - take that as you will. We've been having "no contact" other than simple practical exchanges regarding divorce proceedings.
The new developments:
One of the legal forms we need to fill out for the divorce is a disclosure of assets form - listing income and expenditures. I've done mine, but my stbx has always complained of not having a head for figures, so she called me to get help filling hers out. Turns out we had to ask the lawyer a question in order to resolve how to fill out the form.
Anyway, she calls the very next day and asks if I spoke to the lawyer. This is very unlike her - she's usually the last one to do things, the last one to push the schedule ahead. I told her that I had spoken to the lawyer and that we needed a better sense of her work hours in order to fill out the form. She's just starting a new job and doesn't have fixed hours yet.
"I won't know the hours until next week," she said.
"Okay," I said. "Just let me know when you do."
"Oh."
"What? Everything okay?"
"Yes," she said slowly, "I just thought you'd want to move this more quickly. I thought you wanted to get it over with."
"I want to do it right," I said. "If we have to wait to fill out the form, then that's what we'll do."
"Oh."
The next day - I get an e-mail from her including a few practical details and then the part that stumped me. She says: I'm sending you a package that should arrive Thursday or Friday. I know it's an odd thing for me to do, but when you see the package I know you'll understand and you'll enjoy it. Later, P.
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Haven't received the package yet. Just noting the oddity of the change in her demeanor over the last few contacts.
That's where I'm at - thoughts? comments? reactions? Just been puzzling me.
twg
Re:a package riversandlakes:
Too little information to read into. Let's see what this package is.
I guess courtesy is acceptable...
Re:a package AloneandCold: I agree too little to say much. Though still odd.
a lepracaun? browngreen: Hmmmm... something you'll "understand" when you see it. I like her style, but she sure has us all wondering, huh?
You realize now you HAVE to tell us what it is when you get it? Even if the lightbulb doesn't go off.
Anyway, no matter what it is, it's something meaningful to her that she seems to hope will explain something unexplainable with words. Symbolism is cool. Hopefully it's got a practical use as well.
But in either case, I think it's an apology- something that means she didn't mean to hurt you.
That's just me reading into it...
BG
Re:a package jen: hmmmm...the odd part to me isn't that she is sending you something, but that she let you know in the e-mail that she is sending it. Maybe its something as simple as acknowledging the history you share, that there are certain inside jokes or understandings that only the two of you would get. Maybe it is something thoughtful that made her think of you. Regardless, it is odd that she would tell you before the fact. Makes me wonder if she wants to make you wonder...
Keep us posted.
mtmo
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