Re:Things I haven't told you terragon: I agree with i_sing_alone...
it's nice to know there are nice guys like you out there who want to treat a woman well...
and yeah, it would be nice if a nice girl (like me :) ) who wants to treat her man well and give him everything he could ask for could eventually find a nice guy too...
Re:Things I haven't told you niceone251: What's really sad is that I AM a nice guy, decent looking, and pretty successful. But 16 years in a bad marriage really wears on your perception of yourself. All I wanted was a nice woman to be partners with-equals. Instead, what I got was manipulated and ignored (or worse, not respected as a person).
What really surprised me are the reactions I get. We live in a small to medium sized town, and my wife is from here. So we move in all the "right" social circles, etc. People in that circle of friends (the "social" people, if you know what I mean) are generally surprised. But people not in that circle (like some of my co-workers, and friends of mine who aren't in that social circle) generally say "what took you so long?" When some of her family comes to you and tells you they support your decision, you know you are on the right track.
Thanks for the kind words.
Re:Things I haven't told you Sittingbear: yahooo!!
nice one..
bravo..braavvvooo to yooouuu...that was fun to read..I feel centered reading your exciting missive...
sittingbear jumps up and down like a cheerleader...using a couple of rabbits for pom-poms .....hehehehe
sittingbear
Re:Things I haven't told you niceone251: [quote author=frustratedgirl link=board=25;threadid=9046;start=0#msg77014 date=1112669733">
ugh. I know what you mean. My dad taught me a saying... that will always carry with me.
There are two types of people in life. There are givers and there are takers. The givers just keep on giving while the takers just keep on taking. Fortunately, while the takers dont stand a chance in marriage.... the givers have a chance of finding someone just like them. Cept the giver usually seems to feel guilty for leaving the taker... because they are taking back for themselves for once. Its loving someone that doesnt treat you right. I admire your strength to walk away.
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This is SO true-there really are two types of people. And yes, I felt tremendous guilt walking away. But I gave so much that I felt my sense of identity slipping away.
This is a rhetorical question, but how can people take and take, and never give in return? How can they live with themselves? I will never understand that.
(BTW, I got a private message from Donna that was very nice, and wanted to reply, but don't know her name here. So Donna, I am not ignoring you. Send me another IM and I will reply.)
Re:Things I haven't told you gogecko: Nice info on the givers and takers; I was talking about that today with my sister, but was not quite as eloquint as your dad :)
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