Re:One Year Lumpy: Dear Beren,
So much of your letter echoes my feelings exactly. The absolute lack of emotion/compassion as I literally fell apart in front of her is one of the most vivid memories that stick with me. The constant self-delusion that this person is my friend as she continues to take anything she can get from me while she disrespects and derides me. The complete lack of accountability for the part she played in this divorce. (Somehow the blame for the affair and the lying about the affair have been magically transfered onto me!) Continuing to blame me for everything that's wrong with her life despite the fact that I've been out of the house for more than ten months now. At least we see them for what they are. Stay Sane.
Re:One Year zoinks: This is haunting and beautiful.
<sigh>
Re:One Year snowyheart: Beren,
Thanks for sharing that letter man. So many paralleled truths in your feelings and mine.
It's not what my ex did was unforgivable, it's that I don't want to know a person who would do and did do the things she did upon and after her departure. That's what's so sad about the whole thing. It's the total and unabashed removal of all that is love from what once was a relationship based upon love. She did this not me. Divorce can really bring out those true colors that hide deep within us.
later
Re:One Year snowyheart: Lumpy,
You deserve better bro. I know it doesn't take away the pain but it's true. We all deserve the best. :)
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