What Have I Done? Cizzler: I spent the night at my husbands apartment. For the first time in about 2 months we actually talked. He was completely honest about how he feels about our situation. And told me he doesn't have any hope that we stand a chance of getting back together. Told me he still wants me physically, but he's considering moving on in that area of his life as well. Somebody please remove this knife from my heart because I think I'm dieing now.
I for one keep going back and forth on my hopes for us. One day I really think we could have such a good life together, and the next I just don't. I asked him to move out. He didn't want to go at all. But since he's been on his own he's done alot of soul searching and he agrees we couldn't go on the way we were. And even though I've been keeping my guard up, not wanting him to hurt me anymore, it felt so good to talk. Talk and not scream at each other. Talk and not argue. Talk and actually listen, and be heard. I honestly don't know what I want. I never felt love from him for so long before he left, and after when he says he's trying and he's doing all the things I had missed, I felt so angry. Too little too late. I blame him for so much of our problems. But to hear that he's ready to move on has crushed me beyond words. I feel like I've lost everything.
Re:What Have I Done? teacherwriterguy: Just remember that this is the hardest moment - it really is. That moment of decision and finality and hearing what the other person wants or doesn't want - it hits like a truck.
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Re:What Have I Done? picadilly: It's unfortunate but true, that for some people, they need a piano to fall on thier heads before they realize that they're standing on the brink. Your husband didn't know what he had till he lost it.. .& now he feels he should change. duh. But what else did you expect to hear from him? If he's a half decent guy, he will think & try to change & give lip service to that change.
Proof is in the pudding, he'll need more time to show that he's changing. Don't be upset if he's telling you he's changing, there is no guarantee that if you were to get back together that things wouldn't fall back to being the same.
Some would say that they would risk that potential pain to try again... it's a hard thing to hear that they will change for you but not for "you". I'm not saying there is anything that could be done to change things or his mind, I'm saying that you have to move on with your life, remember the reasons why you seperated & that if he really wanted to change for you, he'd still be pursuing you.
Anyway, take care of yourself.
Re:What Have I Done? riversandlakes: [quote author=teacherwriterguy link=board=1;threadid=9071;start=0#msg71729 date=1111168032">
Just remember that this is the hardest moment - it really is. That moment of decision and finality and hearing what the other person wants or doesn't want - it hits like a truck.
twg
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At that moment in time, I wished it was a truck.
Re:What Have I Done? Cizzler: Truck? Try steam roller :'(
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