Re:sexless marriage?? sheydp: Ok - I don't think anyone made this comment, but I feel it is pertinent - why does lack of functioning penis mean no sex?
The truth is, women get off better with hands and tounge, and most men I met get off from turning a woman on! I had a boyfriend once that had trouble getting it up, too, but he said the sensations were as pleasureable when it wasn't up... easiest blowjob in the world! Sex isn't just about penetration. Sex is about touch, and closeness, and showing you are attracted, and feeling good.
I took a sex ed class once - we watched videos on handicapped sex - let me tell you - those people had FUN! Unfortunately, today, sex seems to be all about penis penetration and orgasm. Hey, I would be happy to talk to you via PM about details on how to spice up the bedroom without penetration, but I think I was crude enough here to shock some, and better shut up!
Re:sexless marriage?? KeyWestCorona: [quote author=NoEscape link=board=1;threadid=9077;start=0#msg73722 date=1111756525">
I have a girlfriend who is an attractive woman and her husband falls asleep on her every night. No intimacy----they are in their 30's...[/quote">
I had this problem before I was married...Sleep Apnea. Also make sure you aren't dealing with someone who has low testosterone or suffers from depression.
Re:sexless marriage?? twetifb: [quote"> Without sex--you are roommates pure and simple.[/quote">
I completely agree with this statement. I was actually just telling my husband last week that we are roommates who share a bed but not our lives. I'm 26, he's 32 and we go months without sex &/or any type of touching/physical contact. I think I can count on one hand how many times we've had sex in the last two years. It's very hard on me because I'm a very sexual person. He tells me he's still attracted to me, I make efforts to spice things up, but at the end of the night there's still nothing. We've talked in great depths about it but nothing has changed. Our relationship has a lot of issues and this one is just the icing on the cake. I know sex isn't everything but it is important because when you love someone it makes you feel that much more like "one."
Re: sexless marriage?? tubsie: Hello,
This is the first time on this site and I am so glad that I am not the only person in this situation. My wife hasn't been interested in being affectionate for years. I have been hoping that she will change and start becoming affectionate again, but it hasn't happened and doesn't seem likely to happen and whenever I bring the subject up she just says that she doesn't want to talk about it.
It has reached the stage now where it is really upsetting me and I am thinking that maybe it is time for us to go our separate ways. The only thing is that we have children and I don't want to upset them..but at the end of the day I can't go the rest of my life with a wife who doesn't want to hold me or kiss me, let alone have sex.
To be honest I have started thinking about whether I should start an affair with someone else because maybe that way the marriage could still survive.
I don't know what to do, can anyone help?
Thanks
Re: sexless marriage?? Konan: This was an issue in my marriage. We would have sex maybe 2 or 3 times per month, sometimes once or twice per month.
I am pretty certain that the reason was other issues, i.e., resentments, not working through things and just sweeping them under the rug, and just lack of trust. I didn't trust her fully. All of these things lead to a lack of emotional intimacy.
We barely even talked about IT, i.e., our sex life. But when we did, what she said is that while we didn't do it often, when we did it was really good. So I thought, erroneously, that "quality vesus quantity" was getting us by. But we were just getting each other "off." It really wasn't quality in the sense of emotional closeness.
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