So Crazy you'd think it was from Jerry Springer Mmelly1: Part 1: Jerry Begins….
I was reading some of the other stories and figured I'd share mine and ask what others thought of this situation. I had been with my now ex for 3.5 years from age 20 until 23. We were in the military together and stationed at the same base overseas. When I separated from the military, I moved back to the states in 2003. My now ex and I kept in contact and still remained really close friends despite the fact he lived on the west coast and I lived on the east coast. I got a job with a really good company and he was struggling on the west coast trying to go to school and work nights. For a year and a half over the phone he talked about how much he missed being together and how he felt stuck in his current situation financially. I attempted to date once but after 3 years of a relationship that never really felt like it ended I wasn't ready to be with anyone else, I still missed my guy and thought he was the "one" and I was willing to wait for him, fate, or both to bring us back together. Spring of 2004 a position opened up with my current company, I practically forced my boss, manager and human resources to hire him. He got the job along with a pretty hefty relocation bonus. I paid 2000 dollars for his moving expenses as well as arranged to have him stay with some friends of mine who just bought a huge house for as long as he needed to until he found a place he could call home. My ex moved out to the east coast in May 2004, by June he had determined that he wanted to move in together with me again and be roommates. He professed that he still loved me and thought living together again would be the best thing. Being naive I broke my lease that I was already in and paid a ton of money to be able to move in with him. 2 weeks after the new lease was signed he started acting funny towards me avoiding me, giving me the silent treatment, etc. I confronted him and at that point he said, “I don't want to get back together I just want to be best friends”. So here I am with a year lease signed with this guy who says he loves me, has acted like he wants nothing else but to be around me again, but can't seem to want anything to do w/ me all at the same time. The lease is a year w/ no clause to break it, just pay the full year rent regardless. I tried to move out at that point insisting I wouldn't leave him without first finding him another roommate but he claims he "won't stand to live w/ anyone else". He says I can move out so long as I pay him full rent in addition to paying for another place of my own. Unfortunately financially that isn't feasible. So I barely survived the summer, it was emotionally and mentally draining to be in this mess 24X7. Yeah and as far as trying to date other people forget about it! No guy wants to date a girl who still lives with her Ex, probably because it sounds straight out of Jerry Springer. He still tries to be "buddy, buddy" with me one minute, calls me "babe" and "honey" like when we were together and then the next minute he's "mad" at me for not still trying to salvage a relationship doomed like the Titanic.
Re:So Crazy you'd think it was from Jerry Springer Mmelly1: Part 2: Jerry and the furniture starts flying..
So December comes around and he's depressed about not being around his family or having a "special someone" in his life. Enter Melly the scapegoat again. During an especially heated argument I asked him what I ever did other than give him a great job, pay for his moving expenses and try my best to give him his space. I asked why I never even got an explanation as to why he moved to the east coast (or decided to move me in with him) in the first place if he didn't want anything to do with me. At this point he divulges that I was merely a 3 year booty call to him. So basically this was the end of my respect for this so called man. It's now March 2005 and I've made it through 3 more months of emotional yo-yo hell trying to live in the same house and work in the same office as this monster. He not only tried to destroy my ego and self esteem but thought it was “funny” that he "broke my heart" because "women are just too emotional." Just when I thought I'd finally seen it all he informs me that he is now flying out one of his former coworkers from the west coast next week. Apparently the visitor is a 42 year old woman with 5 kids from 3 different fathers next week for a week "fling". (Keep in mind he's 26 and I'm 25). So with the upcoming visitor he's been trying to get sympathy from me by making comments about how he's doomed in relationships. How no one ever wants to be with him. How he still loves me, just can’t be with me, etc.. Why I am supposed to care about his problems at this point is beyond me but who knows maybe someone out there can explain this to me. Well to finish this story I am down to 12 weeks now. I never thought I'd make it through but I think the worst is over now. Unfortunately or fortunately depending on how you look at it I guess, I will be moving states when my lease is up in June 2005 and of course having to change jobs. It sucks to have to give up so much of your life to get away from someone who can't appreciate what you've tried to give them. But I say what goes around comes around. I'm still enduring the yo-yo head games daily to some extent but it's almost over and I'm feeling less and less crazy every day. Well that's pretty much the beef of my story. There were other fun instances of head games like the bouquet of flowers he gave me for Valentines Day for no apparent reason?? But that's about all for now, typers cramp and all. Thanks for reading, I look forward to your feedback as well as other stories. Melly
Re:So Crazy you'd think it was from Jerry Springer riversandlakes: My 2 cents:
My God, melly, loose this loser boy, will ya? There're 3.25 billion men better than he is...
Just what gave him the right to mess with other's heads? Being little doesn't automagically give him that right >:(
The longer you stay with this kid the deeper you're going to be messed up. Don't you see? He's using you for $ - "He says I can move out so long as I pay him full rent in addition to paying for another place of my own". Why on earth do you need to pay him?!
Run, melly, run!
P/S: Not complaining, but after reading your 2 posts, I'm kinda messed up too now. The people around nowadays :o
Re:So Crazy you'd think it was from Jerry Springer Lonelyi in PA: wow.. He definitely has some issues. He sounds like he has no emotional attachments. That probably makes it easy for him to have no regrets for messing with people's minds and hearts.
Hang tight and be sure to get those boxes ready... even though you have feelings for this guy it would be best if you move on. I know it won't be easy...thus the reason many of us are here... but take it one day at a time.
