Re:Story of Three snowyheart: Altdeck,
Hang in there. I don't understand it, if someone wants space don't friggin get married and have kids. Duh. Oh I want space, well hello, you are married now and have responsibilties and serious commitments.
Anyway, I do kindof agree with Becominganewme, when she says grant your selfish wife her wishes. Your wife is obviously seeking respect and probably perfection too. I hate in when people quit because they don't get it all their way. But, if you do honor her wishes and cease "harassing" her she might just think that your worth keeping. But like Becominganewme said, it's a gamble. Give it a try for a while, if you can. Just let her go for a time.
It could turn out that she is not the selfish, weak, gutless, chicken-shit, coward that My ex is.
Peace bro
Re:Story of Three riversandlakes: [quote author=snowyheart link=board=1;threadid=9091;start=0#msg71990 date=1111275727">
Altdeck,
Hang in there. I don't understand it, if someone wants space don't friggin get married and have kids. Duh. Oh I want space, well hello, you are married now and have responsibilties and serious commitments.
Anyway, I do kindof agree with Becominganewme, when she says grant your selfish wife her wishes.
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I second both of those! Contradictory? That's the way it is!
Re:Story of Three AlterDecko: God damn it! I try not to call, but I do. It is mostly cause I want to see my son. But I always end up talking about the marriage and how I miss her and asking if she is seeing anyone else...etc..etc. How do I stop! I am just soo lonely and depressed. I just want to work it out!
Everything I see reminds me of her, I wonder if she is thinking the same way. I just want her to say... give me some space and then we will fix our marriage, but instead she says give me some space cause you should do that for yourself, and i cannot garutennee that we will be together or anything. I hate that. But sometimes she says and I quote "If I give you a deadline, you are just going to change til then, and then we will get back together and after two weeks you will be back to the same old wayz." I think that shows that she wants to work it out...aka... tough love. God I am soo lost!!! ???
Re:Story of Three riversandlakes: AD, it always is. She is consistently asking for time. Give her time, never mind that you and I think that is adverse against communication.
Keep yourself busy, please. Very busy. Give her the time she needs.
Re:Story of Three crazyinpa: AlterDecko your wife sounds strangly like mine. I've heard these exact same thing come out of my wife's mouth. She left me around a month ago. The first two weeks we agreed to have dinner together once a week, and she would come over and spend Sundays with me. We continued to talk on almost a daily basis, and most of the time the conversations where not friendly. I think she had gotten to the point with my whining and our argueing that she was about to call it quits.
I got some advice from a family member who had gone through a lot of the same things. He told me to just cut tied for some time and see what happenes.
I talked with her about it, and we agreed to 2 weeks with NO communication. She didn't believe that I would be able to stick to it. Amazingly I did! I haven't contacted her in those two weeks. Her on the hand...after one week she sent me an IM when I was away from my CPU. It said that she just wanted to say hi. I sent her a text msg back telling her thank you and appreciated it. Next thing I know she hopes on her CPU and chats with me for about a half hour.
Two days later she returned from a business trip, and she texted me to let me know she got home ok.
Last night she calls me to tell me she got a new tattoo.
Tonight (Sunday) is our offical 2 week period being over. I'm picking her up and taking her to a fancy resturant. We're both getting dolled up in our best! I got her flowers. Tonight I hope to have a lot of things answered. However I realize even if she feels good about us after these two weeks it doesn't mean she will want to move home right away, or maybe I'll have to go through another two weeks. I don't know. However I am willing to accept it because I love my wife with all of my heart. I'm willing to do what it takes to make her happy and maybe deny myself a little of that happiness right now.
Face it...give her what she wants! In the end maybe you'll get what you want.
I'll post some updates tonight or tomorrow about the outcome of our evening tonight.
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