Re:HD's Story in several posts (it's long.) HDSquirrel: At this point, I was working in the place where I am working now, and I ran into a wonderful person by the name of Jessica. Jessica is what I call a Truthseeker. She sees right through people and can get to the heart of the matter immediately. She doesn't put up with any attempt to rationalize or explain away things that need to be dealt with. Jessica would get in my face and would force me to deal with the pain I was going through. She was my lifeline to sanity. She validated the insanity of my situation, and supported me when I finally made the decision to get out. She's been my rock to lean on when I feel like I can't take it anymore, and I'm so very proud to call her my friend. I think that as time has gone on, I'm becoming more and more like her, and it's my hope that maybe by writing all of this out, I might in some way repay her by helping some of you. If anyone has any questions about my life, please ask, as I'm hiding nothing here.
So...how did I get out? Well, with Jess's help, I wrote out my list of decisions. RT and I met together in a joint counseling session and I took back the reins of my own life. I told him I would be seeking a divorce and that it was not negotiable. I told him that I would ask to keep the kids, and that I wanted things to be amicable. I told him I already had the name of a mediator, and I asked RT for his cooperation. I can't help but think that maybe that all came as a relief to him as well. We had driven to the counseling session in separate cars so he couldn't yell at me on the way home. I stood firm, and had burned a cd with lots of empowering songs that I played over and over to restore my faith in myself. It's been a long journey, but I'm better off for it, I think, as I'm so much more aware of things now, and finally, I actually *have* learned from my mistakes.
This is way longer than I anticipated, so I'll end this now. For those that have read through it all, thanks. I hope for someone, this helps.
Re:HD's Story in several posts (it's long.) lostguy: Wow...
That's an amazingly honest and well written summary of the ordeal you went through.
Sorry you had to go through it, but glad you came out the other end a stronger person.
Re:HD's Story in several posts (it's long.) riversandlakes: goodness, gracious. that was a lot of pain. i'm sorry you went through those years, but i'm glad you're out of it now.
All the best!
Re:HD's Story in several posts (it's long.) HDSquirrel: Thanks, guys...I guess I also kind of wanted to put a different spin on why people might cheat...it's not always due to someone being selfish and uncaring...sometimes it's just done to help you survive.
:-\
Re:HD's Story in several posts (it's long.) ww9111: [quote author=HDSquirrel link=board=1;threadid=9506;start=0#msg75345 date=1112214776">
Thanks, guys...I guess I also kind of wanted to put a different spin on why people might cheat...it's not always due to someone being selfish and uncaring...sometimes it's just done to help you survive.[/quote">
Wow. From what I have just been through I am almost seething at cheaters but in reading your story I think I would have beat the guy senseless for that crap.
I am glad that I am sitting here feeling compassion for you even though you cheated. It makes me feel like I am the person I used to be, someone with a heart who takes everything into account before forming an opinion.
I too am very sorry for your story but am happy to hear you finally got the strength to get out.
Best wishes. :)
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