Re:don't wanna date hollygolightly: It is so interesting for me to read about everyone loving their freedom and ability to do what they want. Hmmm. My marriage was so different. The stbx and I worked opposite hours and basically only saw each other on Sundays. So I've been doing what I want my whole life.
The part I miss is having someone in my heart to love and to share things with. I miss hearing his point of view.
I think I'm *almost* ready to do what somebody else wants to do, see the movies someone else wants to see, and eat where someone else wants to eat. I'm tired of me, me, me all the time. ;D
Re:don't wanna date jillieb44: I hear ya. I was married but ignored, so I'm ready for some company.
Though I enjoy being out from under the ex's microscope, always questioning what I was doing (as in why are you reading that book when toys need to be picked up -- when he never so much as picked up ONE SINGLE TOY EVER!!) Uh, Mom's need a break, too.
Jillie
Re:don't wanna date Lilsara: I don't want to date either. Well I do but I don't wnat to make the effort or play the games. And I see some of the women I'm "competing" with and I DO NOT wear that much make-up or wear a size 4 leather pants or pointy heels!!! I'm just not as fearless and carefree as I was 3 years ago...I feel so much more pressure to not get hurt and find a good one so I don't waste my time and heart!!!!
Although I think I will be more focused on school without a man, it is nice to have one around. I'm counting on my attached friends to set me up with their single guy friends (Oh god I am THAT girl) or I'm counting on my other single friends to force me to go out and talk flirt. I guess we wil see
Re:don't wanna date kimura321: My heart's just not into dating right now, although the divorce paperwork hasn't even been started(why I do not know-this is what she wanted)I've been on a few dates just for the heck of it, but I've been digging the me time, focusing on my hobbies and career as well as my favorite pastime- doing the dad thing.
My mom gave me some good advice(she and my dad have been going strong for over 33 years and are the best of friends), get into a relationship when you feel complete-the other person should just enhance it, as opposed to seeking completeness in the arms of someone else. I figure it's viable advice.
What I can't is the pressure I get from my peers to be married or have a significant other. I don't want to be set up or jump into something just so I can fit a demographic. I believe in the saying luck is where preperation meets opportunity. Be the best you can be, life life to the fullest, and most all, be excellent to everyone(lousy bill and Ted reference), and all will fall into place, just not when you expect it. Then you will get the comments on how lucky you were. just my two cents.
