Re:don't wanna date AmyMarie1972: Well I am just begining to get some parts of my life back again and I like it. I am meeting people, having conversations again and I have no intention what-so-ever of going back to what I became while I was with my ex. I know what you mean craez about the co-dependant trap but that is something that I will not fall into again. Doesn't mean that any of us will end up alone for the rest of our lives though.
We will all meet new people when we are ready to.
In the mean time enjoy your freedom.
P.S. If you don't want the fireman could you send him my way ;D
Re:don't wanna date Ladybug: I'm right there with you guys. Little things like picking out a paint color for my house or watching the TV show I want to watch or what to have for dinner...all my decision. I love it.
You know what's really neat about being in that frame of mind, is that when I do date, it's so much less stressful. If it doesn't go well...so what. Also, I am not likely to convince myself to accept something that I don't like about a guy, just to have someone. It's very liberating!
Re:don't wanna date Lome: Is there any chance that this fireman could become a male "friend"? I really mean a man that you could go do "man" stuff with.
Do not let the fact of gender determine who you develop relationships with....and I don't mean sex!
For years, I have played rough sports: camping, guns, karate....yep, my daddy wanted a son!
Now, I can tell you...many of my friends for years were males. If there was ever any sexual chemistry, I was always unaware of it (as I was either teaching a class or kicking their butts in the ring).
After I married, these relationships died down. Some of these friendships were really great!
Hope yours work out....
Re:don't wanna date LostTeacher: i am a mixed bag with this idea too.
i am totally enjoying some of my own things, and doing stuff i would never had done with him.... like going to the club when i want, seeing a musical, shopping, going to the gym. i also like the freedom of being able to stay at work when i needed to, get the work done that i need, stay up when i want, watch tv in bed, eat in the living room, all the little things i didn't do with him.
but i miss the contact. i miss having someone to talk to and share my happy and sad moments with. and i want that contact again with someone.
i don't know if personally i am ready to date yet. i know that he has moved on in that department, but he also checked out of this relationship a lot sooner than i did, so he has had more time to get to this place than i have. but...... i don't know. i want to be selfish, but i wouldn't mind sharing my life with someone again. does that make sense?? ???
Re:don't wanna date summerparis: I'm with you on this one. I'm not in a rush and I trust my gut feeling. I know it will happen when I'm ready. I can tell that I'll be ready pretty soon, because I'm suddenly noticing a lot of good-looking, nice guys!
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