Can anyone answer this? sirhc96: Was talking to my Ex the other day and then we started talking about finances. Well for the past few months I have not been able to help very much with helping to pay daycare for our daughter. She was beggin me that when I get in a better to please start helping her with it. I told of course I would, I still care for her and wouldnt screw her over like that. She got upset that I said care for her and I replied to her it is only because you are the mother of my daughter. She still went on about how me saying that I care for her makes her uncomfortable. I just said ok and left it at that.
Well my question is why would someone still feel strange when they are told that after a year of divorce and they are the one that left. She also swears up and down that she still has not seen anyone and I am 99% sure about that because her mom reassures me of that and she would know. So any ideas on why she would still feel uncomfortable with me saying that after one full year? Thanks
Chris
Re:Can anyone answer this? :broken:: She's trying to move on, you telling her you still care for her reminds her that you're there and maybe she doesn't want to see that possibility, and you can't make her.
just my thoughts.
Re:Can anyone answer this? AmyMarie1972: It is possible that you saying that you care triggers feelings that she had for you. She may be regretting the decision to leave. She may have discovered that the grass isn't greener on the other side.
Who knows? But don't worry about what she is thinking. Try to help her with your daughter as best you can.
Good luck
Re:Can anyone answer this? HDSquirrel: My gut reaction says her squirminess is related to guilt she feels. Guilt over what, only you guys would know...maybe guilt for leaving and landing you both in a tough place? Hard to say.
*hugs*
Re:Can anyone answer this? riversandlakes: It is exactly these questions that waste the energy from the food we eat :P
Think about it, what good are these questions? Yet I continue to ask them...
