Crapped OUT! kissthis161: Can someone please explain to me why in the world, when a marriage doesn't work or feel good at the time, do so many crap out and think that "oh well, there is always divorce!" I mean what happened to people sticking it out and working on the issue rather than give up when things are seemingly too hard? I'm still here and granted, although I want to run away at times, my ass sticks it out and tries to find a solution!!!!!!! I am so sick of the human race and its flimsy cope outs I don't know what to do. Yes, I know ther are people out there that are good decent and full of hope, but it stinks to know that there aren't that many. I hope to God that no one on here is taking this personal but that is just how I feel.......where has integrity and values gone?
Re:Crapped OUT! Dino: too many people think that they deserve all the fruits of life without putting in any effort. people dont want to work at things anymore. they want the easy way and its often much easier to start a new relationship where everything is rosy in that puppy love stage than hang around and work on repairing a damaged relationship.
people want a quick fix these days.
it sucks
Re:Crapped OUT! snowyheart: Hi kissthis,
Thanks for your post. And bitterdino, I couldn't agree more.
You can find lots on this subject in my previous posts.;D
You have addressed what I have found to be a very touchy subject around here. And that surprises me a lot because most of the people here at ojar were dumped, me included.
People crap out because they can always find someone or some source to tell them that THEY are right. They can go pay some shrink to listen to their sob story and tell them what they wanna here, or they can search around and find a group of experienced dumpers to give them peace of mind and hold their hands through the dumping process.
They can find justification in a magazine or a book or a tv show of often from a divorced parent. One way or another, anybody can find somebody or some source to tell them what the want to hear, somebody to aid them in justifying their actions.
Many people today just shiver at the though of being told they are wrong, we live in an time where everything is excuseable, and everything is ok, as long as you don't violate their rights. :P
But really Bitterdino said it all with the first sentence of his post.
snowyheart
Re:Crapped OUT! AmyMarie1972: Yeah I was dumped and boy do I hate saying that.
I was willing to try everything to save my marriage but he wasn't. Walking away was the easy option for him, not for me or the kids but for him. I think that the world is just full of some really selfish people. They think of this great world that awaits them and they go for it without having any thoughts about who they hurt in the process. What they don't realise is that those great worlds that they are aiming for are not so great and what they have left behind would have been much more of a paradise for them.
Re:Crapped OUT! soTiredOfHurting: This does seem to be a disturbing and common trait in people these days. It is so easy to quit, divorce is so easy to get and finding a new person is pretty easy too (well they make it look like it is).
I find it amazing that there is not more of a focus on marital training in this country. Considering the divorce rate you would think something would have been done by now. Instead of sex ed in high school how about a class on what a healthy relationship should look like and how to do your part in it.
No it is too easy to walk into a courthouse and get a JP to perform a ceremony and *poof* you are married. Then it is just as easy to pack your bags when you are unhappy and walk out the door and be with someone new who 'makes' you happy. Then the matter is simple of filing the paperwork and having the marriage disolved due to 'ireconcilable' differences. What a term. It should read 'because one of the partners gave up', but then hey, someone would have to take resposibility for their share in it and we just can't have that now can we?
