advice please auminer: I havent been on in a month or so. A quick history of my story. With a girl for 9 yrs, 2 kids, no cheating, no abuse, she has left about 3 times in the past 4 yrs. THis last time she left in Jan. She said the feelings were gone. She has emotional problems with her family, mom etc divorcing her dad when she was 16 and basically abandoning her. She has been seeing some guy for about 2 months now, said it was pretty serious. I went through hell for 2 months, grieving and such . I started dating and met someone. Not sure how I feel about this new girl. She saw me pick her up with my son one day and she said yesterday that it really bothered her. She talked to me yesterday and said it really bothered her. All of a sudden she wants to see a counsellor for herself, she says she is confused. I told her before Id never take her back after being with someone else. But I too have now. And that really bothered her. She was jealous. She said but youd never take me back anyway. What is theis person going through. She seems to be regretting her decision to leave, grass wasnt greener on the other side. She started crying saying she missed my mom (she became very close to her) she told me she was so sorry for hurting me. I sure dont wasnt to go through what I went through again. Help .. Id do anything to kep my family together and I still love her very much.. We are still best friends after all this.. thxs
Re:advice please HDSquirrel: Come here, go away...come here, go away...
Auminer, check this site out...the graphics are cheesy, but the info is good. Visit the other links on it as well: http://www.silcom.com/~joy2meu/codependent4.htm
I don't have an answer to your immediate situation, but sometimes identifying the root cause is the best first step you can make.
*many hugs*
Re:advice please auminer: She finally admitted that she is going to go to a counsellor to try to figure some things out. Thats a positive step I think.
Re:advice please slowlearner: Yes, it's a positive step for her but in the end it may not make any difference to your marriage, so please protect yourself and don't go getting your hopes up. Look after YOU!
Re:advice please auminer: She told me today that shes not sure why she felt jealous. She is confused about what she is feelings. Give her space ??
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