Was this a fair situation for me? rcmorrison: Was this a fair situation for me?
Here's my situation...
I got remarried August 6, 2004 to a man whom I loved with all my heart and still do to this day. MJM asked me to relocate to Kenosha, WI from Dallas, TX. I was asked to sell my home, quit my job where I was a Sr. Project Manager making GREAT money, and walk away from my friends/family to be his wife and stepmom to his son.
I did this willingly because I loved him very much and wanted to be with him and have a family with him as well. I left TEXAS on Aug 27th to begin my new life as his 3rd wife.
I was the youngest of 3 wives. Both of my previous rivals were now women in their 50s and they each had a son while married to my husband.
The first wife, her son (19yrs) and myself got along great, BUT the second wife and her son (13yrs) felt that I was too young to be his wife and felt that I was a serious threat that needed to be irradicated.
MJM is 52yrs and I am 35yrs and we were so happy together until his youngest son came to live with us.
My husband relocated from Chicago to Kenosha, WI in 2002 to be near his second son because this boy had problems. My youngest stepson has ADHD, asthma, and is rather big for his age....sometimes people forget that he's just a teenager.
My stepson, CM, had a problem accepting his parent's divorce in May 2003. At this time, MJM and I were dating, but didn't see much of each other until after his divorce was finalized. Afterwards, MJM would invite me to come and stay a week with him and CM so that I could get to know his son.
This boy liked me as long as I was a GF, but after becoming a stepmom, I was an enemy and he caused more problems for me and MJM.
He would get in trouble at school and blame me for his problems. He told his mother that I was yelling at him and abusing me, which none were true. I tried to help him with his studies and offer my advice, but he would become angry and storm off to his room.
After his hissy fit, the phone would ring and it would be his mother yelling at me because of her boy. Then MJM would call to yell at me because of his boy. I got fed up, stopped caring and stopped trying to be a mom.
My last few weeks with my husband and CM were miserable. I felt like a prisoner in my own home. I would cry because I gave up everything to be this man's everything only to be treated like nothing by him, his son and his former wife.
MJM asked me to leave on Oct 19th and I returned to Texas to try to reclaim my life. While en route to Texas, he calls to tell me that he plans to file for divorce and he did.
Our divorce will be finalized on April 22nd. I do not plan to fight for my marriage because it really wasn't a marriage from the beginning. His son lied on me countless times and sometimes I feel that his mother put him up to it because she still has feelings for MJM.
I don't have any animosity or anger towards them, but I pray for them. I know that one day, MJM, CM and his mother will see what they have done to me and I hope that they change their ways before it's too late for their souls.
So sorry for such a long thread...I needed to say this to get it off my chest.
Re:Was this a fair situation for me? HDSquirrel: Can't say I have one good thing to say about those folks, RC, but I'm glad you're out. Sounds like it was a doomed situation from the beginning due to all of the baggage brought on board by all of the different players. I think you're better off being back in TX. :(
Much love and many hugs while you're hurting....
Re:Was this a fair situation for me? soTiredOfHurting: Wow RC that is a bad situation for you to have been in. You gave up everything to be with the man that you loved and he ends up rejecting you. It is sad to see and hear what other people are capable of. Sad as it is, it does sound like the best for you. Hang in there and we are here for you.
