He's a mess MichelleOC: So he's still living with me. I went to see family yesterday in San Diego after work, and to break the news of whats going on in my 'marriage'. Got home 1t 12. He was curious to know what they had to say. My family has always been kind to him, so he felt like a heel knowing that they know he's essentially an immature, selfish kid. Made me feel sad for him that he cant get his s**t together and keeps doing self destructive things. Maybe someday he'll hit it big. That's what he wants more than anything - including me. He's got major problems stemming from a highly dysfunctional family. So sad, but I don't want to see myslef wrapped up in someone who is incapable of love, or of being a decent guy to me. I mean, is it wrong of me to leave someone who's kinda fu--ed up? Or do I sound like one of those weaklings?
Re:He's a mess Just Me Now: There comes a time that you have to stop looking out for everyone else and start looking out for YOU! It's not wrong to leave someone who is screwed up. You can't let yourself get drug down by him. If you stay, you could end up on the same path as him, and then what happens?
You are actually very strong, walking away takes a lot of courage and a strong sense of self.
Re:He's a mess AmyMarie1972: The question to be asked is not is it wrong but do you love him and want to make it work? If he was capable of changing and loving you would you be interested? You are not in a healthy situation at the moment for you or him and I think that you or he are going to have to leave even if you decide that you do want to try. You need space away from eachother because you are both making one another miserable.
He obviously needs help. Is he getting counselling? Has he been to the doctor to see if there is anything wrong medically.
It is your decision and one that I dont envy but you will make the right one.
