Re:he is such a jerk... amola: ok ok ok
trying to figure out how to make all of this make sense.....
we've been having some "behavioral issues" with our oldest daughter. she's 5 1/2 and has always been daddy's girl, so i've generally been considered to be the bad guy in her eyes because i'm the one that filed for divorce and had her low-down scum of the earth father escorted out of the house by the local sheriff. anyway, because the behavioral problems have become worse, we've talked about getting her some kind of professional help...
i suggested that we contact this lady who taught a parenting class that i attended. her name is shanna. anyway, shanna works with several of the kids in sarah's preschool class and so she already knows a little bit about sarah and has talked to her several times informally while she was there working with the other kids.
so today, shanna calls me and says hey, i was at the school the other day and sarah was telling me this story and i could tell that she's really having problems so can i "officially" work with her? i'm like he!! yeah, i was going to call you anyway. so she's coming over here next week so that i can sign the paperwork.
i call the fothermucker to tell him this, thinking that he'll be happy that everything worked out. is he? he!! the f*ck no. what's he pi$$ed about? that i'm going to sign the release forms and not him. because you know, he is the custodial parent right now and he should do that. ok fine, d!(khead, do you want to sign them instead? no, he doesn't. just do whatever, he says. but this woman (shanna) better not plan to only talk to me about sarah, and had better share information with him as well. i'm like whatthef*ckever, she's a professional and she knows that she will have to talk to both parents in order to get the clearest understanding of sarah's head.
he proceeds to tell me how sarah is soooo confused about everything that's going on......i tell him i know that and i understand that. he says that she has more behavioral problems here than at his house......duh, i know that. because i have rules and he doesn't.
he then makes some rather obnoxious remarks about me getting the house refinanced to get his name off of it. i'm like yes i know, i'm working on it so bug off. he tells me to put someone else's name on it. i tell him i have no intentions of putting someone else's name on it. he says that's not what he's heard. i ask him what the he!! he's talking about and he proceeds to tell me that sarah told him that t has moved in and she's confused about it. i told him that t has not moved in, and maybe he should get the information from me instead of relying on a 5 year old, not that it's any of his business anyway. i tell him that sarah likes to tell me stories too, he's like yeah, right. i say, ok, i know about you and debra. he says what, that we went out to dinner a couple of times. i said no, that you're engaged and getting married to her. he says that's not true. i say see? sarah likes to make up stories. she told me that you and the h0bag are getting married and she told you that t moved in with us. get the facts straight before you start slinging the sh!t because if you didn't learn anything in the years that we were together, you had better know that i can sling the sh!t right back with better accuracy than most.
(to be continued.......don't want to risk having to type this all out again...........)
Re:he is such a jerk... amola: (cont.)
so anyway i tell him that when/if t does move in, i will let him know so that he can be prepared to answer questions if they come up when the kids are with him.....he says that he doesn't care if he moves in or not and i remind him that it seems to be an awfully big deal to him right now.........
he tells me that he's seen t at the hotel with me the one time that he came there to get sarah when she was with me. flat out lie. t has only been to the hotel one time and that was this past friday when i went to get my paycheck. there was a guest talking to me the day that he came up there to get sarah, but apparently as far as he's concerned i'm sleeping around with everyone. whatthef*ckever.
ok yes, he does have custody right now. which ends on 4/30 and then i have custody for the next 3 months. yes, he should sign the papers and i just honestly didn't think about it since i said that i would contact shanna about having her work with sarah. i just went with the flow of the phone call with shanna. to me it's not a big deal as to who signs them as long as sarah gets the help that she needs. but obviously, he has to maintain control. he could have said, hey, i'd rather sign the papers since i technically have custody right now, but noooooooo he has to tell me how i'm a horrible mother because i'm going to sign them.
and yes, t has been around alot, but we have been very careful to talk to the kids about what is going on and to not do anything in front of them--he has kissed me on the forehead a couple of times but that's about it. it's not like we're necking in front of them or worse. maybe i shouldn't have him around as much as i do, but dammit for a change i'm happy and i want to show the kids that there are men out there who will not badmouth me in front of them. i want them to see that there are men out there who help with the dishes and take out the trash. i want them to see that i can be happy. they like t, and they ask him to come over. maybe i'm doing the wrong thing. i don't know.
my main beef right now is that just when i feel like my life is moving in a positive direction, he does something like this to make me feel like the worst mother in the freakin' world. i love my kids first and foremost, and i would not have t around them if i had any doubts at all about anything. yes, i know that it's soon, but dang it this feels right to me and i'm not going to fight that.
oooooooohhhhhhhhhhhh he just makes me so d@mned mad!!!!!!!!!!!
>:(
amola
Re:he is such a jerk... amola: oh and to top it off, i went to the bathroom in the middle of typing that out, and didn't realize until it was too late that there was no toilet paper.
Re:he is such a jerk... tyrogers: LMFAO!!!!!!! Sorry girl...had to laugh about the TP. :D
Sounds like you are taking it slow in front of the kids which is a good idea. You seem to have your head on straight (even with the sudden outbursts of x-rated words ;))!!! You know I am here for you anytime, just like you are for me.
I LOVE YOU!!!
BBH
Re:he is such a jerk... Jennicole: amola, why dont ya'll just have joint custody?
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