Re:giving a guy the wrong idea? ChristyM: I read it as just a guy's honest attempt at flirting. He was probably trying to "test the waters" and didn't intend to offend you. You handled it best by letting him know you didn't care for the comment, but I wouldn't worry about him being creepy -- especially if he hasn't crossed the line for you in any other ways. Now if it continues and he keeps making comments like that (little sexual innuendos) you might think twice about hanging around with him.
Christy
Re:giving a guy the wrong idea? Dino: how old is he?
im 26 and my friends and most people I meet wouldnt be offended by that. depends how it was said too. was he sort of joking?
i don't think he meant any harm by it. it sounds like he was either making a joke or trying to gauge your response. either way he picked up you weren't comfortable with it and quit there. he sounds like any normal guy to me
Re:giving a guy the wrong idea? browngreen: Nice feedback, folks! Thank you.
Bitterdino- He's 30.
he said in a joking way-- we had just been chitchatting when I went to the ladies' room. When I commented on it (maybe he asked me about the bathroom) He said "O come on. You can't be THAT prissy. I don't beleive you're that much of a princess. You're probably one of those women who "acts" all naiive.... " and somewhere in there he used the word "Wild cat" (in the bedroom alone with a man) or maybe it was "wild animal"? (i can't remember what he said exactly)
I thought about laughing, but it honestly took me aback.... and I think I reacted like I did because respect, honor, and boundaries were problems I had with my STBXH. So, I might have been a little more sensitive than usual.
GB- thank you for explaining it to me. When I think of it in context of a guy friend of mine saying that to some other woman, I can see where you're coming from. I know and admire some men who are just clueless when it comes to being around a woman they like.
I kind of agree with everyone... ? Holly and Squirrell-- yo'ure right of course too. If I DID maybe think about dating him some day, I'm definitely not thinking about it anymore! I mean, all we have are our gut instincts. I can be friends with him tho. He called today to see if I wanted to walk dogs, and was his usual self..
As long as he doesn't do it again, like Christy said. He seems to know it was out of line, and I actually have a bit more repsect for him today knowing that he caught on without me needing to spell it out! Especially now that I know men are not inclined to reading minds or body language!
I think someday I'll have more of a sense of humor about it. I can't stress enough how much I need to feel just simply respected right now.
Thank you all for your feedback.
