Re:I feel horrible for my husband PiscesGoddess: I can't say anything any better than the fine people before me..other than..Please think long and hard before deciding 100% that things would be better off if you guys were apart. You say you have been together for 8 years and married for 5..I firmly believe in the "7 year itch"..things start to get a little stale..start picking on each other over stupid stuff..cant seem to find that "spark" anymore..and you start to think maybe you both would just be better off apart. If he is willing to try and you still love this guy what would it hurt to try? Try the books my fellow ojarians suggested..try therapy..maybe a trip away..something to try and rediscover why you got together in the first place. You say you want to work on yourself..YOu can do that within the marriage also hon...The "I love him but not in love with him"..thats not totally abnormal after being together for so long..but so many people take that as an excuse to get out because they forget that the "being in love" does wear off and doing the everyday love takes work and nurturing. Im not getting on your case in anyway ..and if you are done..then you are done.. Im just trying to give you a perspective from a person on her 3rd marriage ??? I wish you the best of luck on your decision..
Pisces Goddess
Re:I feel horrible for my husband AmyMarie1972: Hi,
Most of us on here have been in the exact same position as your husband is right now. We have wanted it to work while our partners have said no it wont and have just walked away without trying.
Trust me, it hurts like hell. I would have done anything to have saved my marriage and I am sure that your husband is feeling exactly the same way. The problem that you face is that if you dont at least give him that one last chance he may start to hate you. He may feel bitter and angry towards you because he wanted to put his neck on the line and try anything but you still walked away.
Try and see it from his side when the one person that you love and trust the most in the world isn't willing to give you just that one chance. Surely 8 years together is worth that.
Give him the recommended book, I hear that it is great and give it a go. You loved him once and you can learn to love him again.
As for his habbit tell him that he has got to let it go. That it bothers you and you don't want him doing it any more. I am certain he will listen.
