Thanks...a new development shark17: Thanks so much guys...IMJ I love this line.....Your friendship absolves her from feeling and looking bad about herself and to others.
This hits the nail on the head...this is what she wanted to not feel bad and look bad, not feel guilty......she always kept telling me she didn't want any bad feelings between us...well I found out some things about her and a guy she started to see right before we broke up and it all makes so much sense now, how she kept saying she couldn't go back, couldn't try again with us even though she would be upset calling me, etc...it was a matter of chance that I found out about this new guy, 3 separate instances where I found out stuff without even trying...it happened for a reason...it has totally made me angry with her, she is not the person I thought she was, it was not all my fault....well I had to call her on it and tell her I knew and she was like what are you talking about, but I could tell she was kind of shocked I knew....she was like where are you getting this info.....I told her she was not the person I thought she was and that she should never call me and if she sees me out to ignore me, and I told her to have a nice life and then hung up...I feel good about it..like now I don't want to talk to her because I am mad, not because I am weak and need time to heal, now she is probably feeling bad I know and that she was exposed. In a weird way I still miss her at times, but I am more mad at her than anything so I think it will help my healing process...she hasn't called or tried to explain her side...I won't take the calls, if I see her out I will ignore her and walk away because I am mad, I know this would drive her crazy more than anything...so I haven't spoke with her for 5 days, here’s hoping it goes on for like 50 days and so on..thanks guys I really appreciate your help!!
Re:Thanks...a new development Dino: good for you shark. i hope she respects your wishes. my ex has so far and it is so much easier on me. wow.....days... when i count the days, ~70days seems much more than 2 months. in 6.5 yrs rarely went a day without talking to her.
Re:Thanks...a new development soTiredOfHurting: Congrats on your breakthrough. It is soething that I have come to realize about my STBXW as well. The more that I find out the less that I want to do with her and the better I feel about being rid of her and the drama that follows her. Life has been very nice without it. It is also a point that I cae to also that I don't wand to talk to her either. Now as far as communicating something about the baby, I will tolerate it, but that is as far as I want it to go. She has recently indicated the same and I will ensure that she sticks to it. Consequences to her choices. I hope that things go smooth for you.
Re:Thanks...a new development riversandlakes:
TSSMLMS - that sounds so much like my story.
"she always kept telling me she didn't want any bad feelings between us"
"how she kept saying she couldn't go back"
"ouldn't try again with us even though she would be upset calling me"
"she is not the person I thought she was, it was not all my fault"
"she should never call me"
"she hasn't called or tried to explain her side"
Except, of course, I did tell her, after declaring in no uncertain terms no contacts or friendship, for her to have mercy on this victim who suffers 1000x worse than the victimizer. Let me heal.
Re:Thanks...a new development buyrbware: Welcome you have just read page two of the bullsh*t how to dump your mate script!
My ex wife also read me those lines Word for freakin word! As she slept with her co-worker!
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