My sad story isotope: I have been reading all the messages on the site, and you people are so wonderful and caring towards each other. Even if nobody replies, I just have to tell my story.
I have been with a guy for 5 years, the last 2 years he spend overseas doing an MSc. It was difficult being apart but he said things will be better when he gets back. He came back in January and just like that broke up with me. I was faithful to him, I send him packages and mailed him almost everyday and so did he. I feel so used, alone, depressed. I have tried to forget about the whole thing, but we work for the same company so I see him constantly. And he is still living with me !! I told him to move out, so he is planning on moving out soon.
I feel so hopeless, and it feels like I have lost my ability to love. Am I the only one ? How do we recover from betrayal and such a kick in the butt ?
Re:My sad story atalose: I'm sorry that you are going through this and we've all been there at some point feeling used, betrayed, and just totally crushed. I'm glad though that you have found this site, there are some very wonderful people here. Everyone here pretty much leans on eachother for understanding, comfort, and reassurance. When your just down right pissed ( which will more than likely come later) this is a great place to vent (the vent board).
I can tell you though you may feel right now that you'll never feel whole again, you will! I can to tell you it's much harder remaining in the same house together, seeing that person everyday...........arrrgggg..........my x and I lived together for 4mths. while going through our divorce until I just couldnt take it anymore so I packed up my belongings and my 3 kids and left.
It does get easier (believe me), from one moment to the next you might not now how to act but as the days pass and turn into weeks you'll see and feel your pain lessen.
We are all here for you, and please keep posting, it helps just getting your feelings out in the open and *we* all understand.
A few of the older, wiser Ojarians have left on a Ojar Trip, but they'll be here for you too when they return.
Lots of love and remember keep posting
Re:My sad story isotope: Thank you so much for the lovely words. It feels like I will never recover from this. I'm turning 30 this year, feel like I've missed the boat and like I've waisted 5 years of my life. Knowing that others feel the same and go through similiar situations, helps alot.
Re:My sad story AmyMarie1972: Hi,
The fact that you loved once means that you have the ability to love again. It has not been lost just at the moment it is burried and tangled up with a whole heap of pain.
Your X moving out is a good idea. You need time to heal. Time to let all those feelings come out.
Everyone here has been in the exact position that you are in now. Hell mine only left 7 weeks ago after 13 years and part of me is still in that position, but it is only part of me.
Time has made it possible along with this board for me not to be consumed by pain, anger and feelings of betrayal and the same will happen for you.
Life can be good but that comes with the price of the bad parts. But it will get good again.
Everyone on here is great and they all have such great advice. Just take care of yourself and don't worry about if you can love again because you can and you will and that love will be returned.
Re:My sad story AmyMarie1972: Oh and I'm 32 and have 4 kids but I don't think that will make any difference. There is always somebody for everybody. Believe that.
And I know someone who waited until she was 38 to find the man of her dreams. They have been together for 14 years and have an 11 year old daughter.
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