Is it possible? maddy: I am about a month from being divorced and I have been seeing someone. It's wonderful! We work (very well)together. We share the same passion, we like the same kind of music, etc..
He has told me( and I feel the same way) that I am the first person he wants to talk to in the morning and the last voice he wants to hear at night before he goes to sleep. It isn't about sex (though it is wonderful)
Neither one of us are at a point where we would want to move in together or marry though the subject of how that would work has come up.
I have three children, he is ten years older, loves mine and regrets not having any.
We have begun more things together as just a couple, occasionally with the kids(who think he is the bees knees-though they think he is just a friend) and just doing things for eachother like he'll fix my car and I'll help him clean his house.
I am happier than I have been in years and am enjoying this relationship more than any that I have EVER been in. So what's wrong?
It's the outside: people who know keep cautioning me about him being a rebound person.
because of the policies where I work(I am technically his supervisor -he's part time- and interdepartmental relationships are not allowed) we really have to be cautious about telling people about our relationship.
My mother asked me where I though this relationship was going today and my dad(who never approved of anyone I dated before) LOVES him.
Should I be more cautious with my heart? Is this reckless? We have both concurred that one day we might like to get married.
This is the first person I've dated since my STBX left so...Is it a rebound relationship? does this sound like one? Am I delusional to think that maybe down the road this might work?
Am I beginning to overthink this?
input anyone?
Maddy
Re:Is it possible? JimB: [quote author=maddy link=board=6;threadid=9602;start=0#msg76117 date=1112378632">
Is it a rebound relationship? [/quote">
Does it matter? It might be, but you're happy - you said so. Why question it?
IMO, it's impossible to identify a rebound relationship while you're in it. Just go with it, for as long as it enhances your happiness.
As far as making future plans is concerned, you didn't say how long you'd been seeing him. I think that has way more to do with it than whether or not it's a "rebound". It's important to give yourself time to gather all the necessary information before you commit to a lifetime together. If you've done your due diligence and still feel good about it, it's not a rebound - it's Mr. Right.
Good luck!
Re:Is it possible? Blueyes424: Maddy,
I agree with JimB......live in the now, and if you are happy, GO FOR IT!!!!!
......now if I could just follow my own advice................
Re:Is it possible? maddy: How long we have been dating has been a closely guarded secret: since before Christmas. Marrage was something only mentioned in the past month. I really went into the relationship with the attitude that it would be a rebound relationship for both of us(his wife left him a few months after they married- it turned out she had been cheating on him since before they married.)
