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The Value of A Personal Relationship The Value of A Personal Relationship.
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Cheater ready for his stoning, maybe (Long) Cheater ready for his stoning, maybe (Long).
Clearing the air. Clearing the air..
4 months and its over 4 months and its over.
home home.
Well, looks like it may be over Well, looks like it may be over.
Scattered Scattered.
I am no different I am no different.
Another leaver here... Another leaver here....
How would you define an "Emotional Affair" How would you define an "Emotional Affair".
Wedding Song Wedding Song.
For the day of the divorce For the day of the divorce.
I can't believe I'm doing this... I can't believe I'm doing this....
Something Wonderful Happened Today Something Wonderful Happened Today.
Unable to believe that my x doesn't love me Unable to believe that my x doesn't love me.
I normally would never share my poetry I normally would never share my poetry .
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talked to STBX talked to STBX.
for everyone at OJAR for everyone at OJAR.
Stupidity runs rampant Stupidity runs rampant.
Thank You Thank You.
Left vs. Right Left vs. Right.
What will my tomorrow's bring? What will my tomorrow's bring?.
Elliott Sadler Boxers and Women's Underwear Elliott Sadler Boxers and Women's Underwear.
"Ex In-Laws" What to do? "Ex In-Laws" What to do?.
nothing to look forward to right now nothing to look forward to right now.
its over its over.
I got a gift last night... I got a gift last night....
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I walk the line.. I walk the line...
For Shiva... For Shiva....
hi Shiva hi Shiva.
Epiphany... Epiphany....
Dear Peanut... Dear Peanut....
How I am coping... How I am coping....
This is a love song.... This is a love song.....
Influence... Influence....
Divorce party... Divorce party....
men in kilts... men in kilts....
The lowest point yet... The lowest point yet....
Divorcing, to save the friendship? Divorcing, to save the friendship?.
not a happy song not a happy song.
I think you all might be the answer to my horoscope today! I think you all might be the answer to my horoscope today! .
in_search_of suggested I'll try in_search_of suggested I'll try.
"Change (In the House of Flies)" [Deftones] "Change (In the House of Flies)" [Deftones].
All things seemd find, UNTIL!!!!!! All things seemd find, UNTIL!!!!!!.
Daughters Daughters.
interesting mail... interesting mail....
NOW WHAT?!!!!??????? NOW WHAT?!!!!???????.
love of my life... love of my life....
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Ignorant Ignorant.
No Racism or Bigotry Please No Racism or Bigotry Please.
Somewhere over the rainbow.... Somewhere over the rainbow.....
Made mistake w/ brother in law (long) Made mistake w/ brother in law (long).
Should Marriage require work? Should Marriage require work? .
Desperado Desperado.
for whom the bell tolls for whom the bell tolls.
Long Long Time Long Long Time.
For M. a promise from me For M. a promise from me.
I don't want to be coy I don't want to be coy.
Surprises Surprises.
Cast no shadow Cast no shadow.
REVIEW: The Grudge REVIEW: The Grudge.
How about Utah? How about Utah?.
Now an Eagle can set me off whats next? Now an Eagle can set me off whats next?.
Security Security.
half way there half way there.
bored fast bored fast.
can't stop crying can't stop crying.
Have a nice life Have a nice life.
Met with Old Friend...first love Met with Old Friend...first love.
I just don't understand I just don't understand.
And all was right with the world..... And all was right with the world......
what's included in support? what's included in support?.
Setting you free... Setting you free....
glad it's over glad it's over.
D-day postponed...ergh! D-day postponed...ergh!.
Book I saw... Book I saw....
Hanging out with an opposite-sex friend is not a date. Hanging out with an opposite-sex friend is not a date..
wanting her back wanting her back.
Sex with another didn't matter... Sex with another didn't matter....
GS GS.
GS2 GS2.
What is going on... What is going on....
I think she checked out... I think she checked out....
Selling engagement ring Selling engagement ring.
A Few Things I Miss A Few Things I Miss .
Does anyone else... Does anyone else....
Part of the Plan Part of the Plan.
Here is my story... Here is my story....
How not to become clingy while dating? How not to become clingy while dating?.
I found him hiding in the bathroom. I found him hiding in the bathroom..
slipping into oblivion slipping into oblivion .
Somewhat final closure - my divorce has been finalized Somewhat final closure - my divorce has been finalized.
Do you consider your marriage a success or a failure? Do you consider your marriage a success or a failure?.
D-Day +1 D-Day +1.
Anyone like to have a chat ? Anyone like to have a chat ?.
Single again Single again.
Officially Started Officially Started.
Things I Don't or Won't Miss Things I Don't or Won't Miss.
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Lady Starlight...........For You know Who Lady Starlight...........For You know Who.
To M. Biggest Part of Me To M. Biggest Part of Me.
Gasp!! For GS Gasp!! For GS.
Nov 22nd Nov 22nd.
This says it all ...... This says it all .......
Dube for You Dube for You.
Another M. Can't Keep it In Another M. Can't Keep it In.
appropriate... appropriate....
Open Letter to Quasi-Evil Beren Open Letter to Quasi-Evil Beren.
Thank You Thank You.
One More One More.
For anyone who needs sweet release and comfort:) For anyone who needs sweet release and comfort:).
Advice needed on school problem Advice needed on school problem.
We file today. We file today..
Yanking the chain-I hate this Yanking the chain-I hate this.
T....read and learn T....read and learn.
Lunar Eclipse, October 27, 2004 Lunar Eclipse, October 27, 2004.
Almost without noticing Almost without noticing.
Finding this writing stuff good therapy Finding this writing stuff good therapy.
I HATE this rollercoaster! I HATE this rollercoaster!.
1st "First" This weekend - Anniversary 1st "First" This weekend - Anniversary.
In here, are we allowed to.... In here, are we allowed to.....
Me Too. Help Me Too. Help.
Have a nice life Have a nice life.
Signed and notarized Signed and notarized.
state of eclipse state of eclipse .
Why, oh why, do I do this to myself? Or to him? Why, oh why, do I do this to myself? Or to him?.
Remembering & Forgetting Remembering & Forgetting.
Thursday bad day today Thursday bad day today.
How are you nice to someone you hate? How are you nice to someone you hate?.
lies etc... lies etc....
My story... My story....
To T...... To T.......
Alex, Alex,.
When it rains...it pours....... When it rains...it pours........
Morbid dreams and confusing behavior Morbid dreams and confusing behavior.
Thank You for my song. Thank You for my song. .
STBX wants to move back!!!! STBX wants to move back!!!!.
ME ME.
A challenge for all A challenge for all.
Too late to send it - she's my stbxw :) Too late to send it - she's my stbxw :).
First Night Alone Without You- Bonnie Raitt First Night Alone Without You- Bonnie Raitt.
Should I withhold visitation? Should I withhold visitation?.
Just today..... Just today......
newly separated member newly separated member.
Nowhere to turn Nowhere to turn.
Thanks anyway! Thanks anyway!.
I think I'm a dork I think I'm a dork.
Idaho jokes but they may apply :) Idaho jokes but they may apply :).
In the process of dealing.... In the process of dealing.....
thanks for the support .... not thanks for the support .... not.
I am the STBX that wants to come back I am the STBX that wants to come back.
D-Day +4 D-Day +4.
And yet another dream. :p And yet another dream. :p.
Pretty Good day Pretty Good day.
Apologies to All Apologies to All .
How to bruise a man's ego.... How to bruise a man's ego.....
lonesome road lonesome road.
Says it all Says it all .
Here Nor There... Here Nor There....
I miss him I miss him.
adultery hearing adultery hearing.
Don't bring me down! Don't bring me down!.
Thank you M Thank you M.
Your right to Vote... Your right to Vote....
this is horrible... this is horrible....
Now What? Now What?.
We can no longer speak... We can no longer speak....
Lonely Friday Night Lonely Friday Night.
Why life just isn't fair Why life just isn't fair.
The fear of dating The fear of dating.
Just for a laugh! Just for a laugh!.
OMG Second thoughts. Need support OMG Second thoughts. Need support.
mistake? mistake?.
How do I learn how to let go???? How do I learn how to let go????.
You know you are from DE when... You know you are from DE when....
ARRRGGG!!!! ARRRGGG!!!!.
A Little Insight Into Them Mind Of The 'Leaver' A Little Insight Into Them Mind Of The 'Leaver'.
Only love can break your heart/N. Young Only love can break your heart/N. Young.
blue boy Joni Mitchell blue boy Joni Mitchell.
Tomorrow should be interesting Tomorrow should be interesting.
down again. down again..
went to dinner by myself again, I am a mad man went to dinner by myself again, I am a mad man.
Something to make you shoot milk out of your nose...... Something to make you shoot milk out of your nose.......
GS III GS III.
A Letter To My Husband A Letter To My Husband.
Have a nice life Have a nice life.
MOVED: A Letter To My Husband MOVED: A Letter To My Husband.
Today is my B-day - I'm sooo alone! Today is my B-day - I'm sooo alone!.
It's gotta be this house! It's gotta be this house!.
theres nothing i can do about it now theres nothing i can do about it now.
I wish I wish.
For malibu's most wanted... For malibu's most wanted....
joke... joke....
Halloween Party last night Halloween Party last night.
What to do about sex? What to do about sex?.
The day before Halloween The day before Halloween.
I am the STBX who wants to move back...cont. I am the STBX who wants to move back...cont..
Need sound relationship advice ! Need sound relationship advice !.
Three times as bad Three times as bad.
!@#$%^&*( !@#$%^&*(.
I guess you will never know... I guess you will never know....
After trick or treat After trick or treat.
Didn't see that coming....! Didn't see that coming....!.
If there is a God... If there is a God....
Conn. Divorce Survivors??? Conn. Divorce Survivors???.
Best place to meet the opp sex? Best place to meet the opp sex? .
1st holiday, well sortof 1st holiday, well sortof.
I'm no longer paralized... I'm no longer paralized....
The S*** hit the fan at 20.00hrs GMT The S*** hit the fan at 20.00hrs GMT.
No one in VA huh? No one in VA huh?.
Helter Skelter Helter Skelter.
Week 1 is over! Week 1 is over!.
Sad day today Sad day today.
Moron Dreams... er... more on dreams Moron Dreams... er... more on dreams.
I just don't understand you! I just don't understand you!.
Find your self ???? Find your self ????.
anyone have problems settling on things? anyone have problems settling on things?.
Is there anybody out there like me? Is there anybody out there like me?.
There are times I wish I had the anger and hate There are times I wish I had the anger and hate.
Divorce Rap Divorce Rap.
ATTN Newbies w/out kids! ATTN Newbies w/out kids!.
Anybody listen to "They Might Be Giants?" Anybody listen to "They Might Be Giants?".
Cake is great! Cake is great!.
Friends from ojar..... Friends from ojar......
Nothing makes me happy... Nothing makes me happy....
When to jump in the pool? When to jump in the pool?.
lying, can you believe it lying, can you believe it.
King of Sorrow King of Sorrow.
The Grief Recovery Handbook The Grief Recovery Handbook.
I quit smoking.... I quit smoking.....
Me and Alone Me and Alone.
normal? normal?.
Holy Water~(for anyone who is feeling lonely) Holy Water~(for anyone who is feeling lonely).
Fallen~(for anyone going through hell...) Fallen~(for anyone going through hell...).
FEAR NOT (Quote) FEAR NOT (Quote).
THE BUTTERFLY AND ME THE BUTTERFLY AND ME.
I HAVE LOVED (Quote) I HAVE LOVED (Quote).
TO LOVE A PERSON (Quote) TO LOVE A PERSON (Quote).
Taking the high road....NOT! Taking the high road....NOT!.
November November.
Old feeling smacked me today. Old feeling smacked me today..
Take care and look after yourself Take care and look after yourself.
It dosen't make any sense (questions) It dosen't make any sense (questions).
Growth, and new perspectives Growth, and new perspectives.
I vote for... I vote for....
Have a nice life Have a nice life.
Who's posts? Who's posts?.
Why do the days get harder? Why do the days get harder?.
Planned my trip home! Planned my trip home!.
Question. Rediculous or not so much? Question. Rediculous or not so much?.
Self Help books Self Help books.
Try this again =) DE, PA, NJ, MD people step up to the plate! Try this again =) DE, PA, NJ, MD people step up to the plate!.
Alone! What is alone? Alone! What is alone?.
I was really bad last night... I was really bad last night....
Pickup Lines Pickup Lines.
What would I pay for a break.... What would I pay for a break.....
Married friends changing? Married friends changing?.
I'm back! I'm back!.
== ==.
3 hole punch 3 hole punch.
D-Day +8/B-Day +1 D-Day +8/B-Day +1.
Lost & Confused Lost & Confused.
The Grave of Love The Grave of Love.
When We Two Parted When We Two Parted.
This crap is making me way too sensitive... This crap is making me way too sensitive....
Quickie..... Quickie......
Liquid Viagra! Liquid Viagra! .
From a true WV native! From a true WV native!.
A really bad day for me A really bad day for me.
P.O.'ed about the election yesterday P.O.'ed about the election yesterday.
ojar for dummies ojar for dummies.
Awwww F#*k it !!!!! Awwww F#*k it !!!!!.
Advice Needed! Advice Needed!.
Yabb God ???? Yabb God ????.
This is a funny bunny This is a funny bunny.
"Mom when will you have another baby?" "Mom when will you have another baby?".
Past the point of no return. What about the kids??? Past the point of no return. What about the kids???.
The latest in my sad situation The latest in my sad situation.
Change of identity Change of identity.
What am I going to do??!!! What am I going to do??!!!.
Back on stage... Back on stage....
I need to have everyone remind me that this is a bad idea. I need to have everyone remind me that this is a bad idea..
Life really is good Life really is good.
I'm new here. I'm new here..
the damage is done the damage is done.
To Ray: From the bitter stbx To Ray: From the bitter stbx.
To Ray: From your friend To Ray: From your friend.
SO ANGRY TONIGHT!!! SO ANGRY TONIGHT!!!.
Perfume of choice? Perfume of choice?.
Posting another poem Posting another poem.
I feel like I'm Home I feel like I'm Home.
Ship Of Fools Ship Of Fools.
You've got to hide your love away/Beatles You've got to hide your love away/Beatles.
Good Lovin Gone Bad Good Lovin Gone Bad.
What a Fool Believes What a Fool Believes.
smoke from a distant fire smoke from a distant fire.
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the final chapter. any opinions welcome!! the final chapter. any opinions welcome!!.
Where is a baseball bat when you need it! Where is a baseball bat when you need it! .
Am I going to make it? Am I going to make it?.
What Do You Do To Lose Weight? What Do You Do To Lose Weight?.
update update.
Do women "lose themself" more than men? Do women "lose themself" more than men?.
does it get any easier??? what do I do? does it get any easier??? what do I do?.
Wish I could of left well enough alone Wish I could of left well enough alone.
Ever Wonder.... Ever Wonder.....
I am really nervous!!! I am really nervous!!!.
Is it possible to be friends? Is it possible to be friends?.
Is anybody sick of Usher? Is he an OJAR member or something? Is anybody sick of Usher? Is he an OJAR member or something?.
Need Advice Need Advice.
For my friend For my friend.
logical science logical science.
Scars Scars.
how I feel how I feel .
For us all here on ojar For us all here on ojar.
HaHaHaHAHA.... HaHaHaHAHA.....
good one good one.
Ghost rider Ghost rider.
Ah, a funny one for a friday.... Ah, a funny one for a friday.....
Skating Away Jethro Tull Skating Away Jethro Tull.
Got that low down feeling Got that low down feeling.
what have you done for me lately? what have you done for me lately?.
who can it be now who can it be now.
more men at work more men at work.
most unoriginal sin most unoriginal sin.
my story my story.
Another Thank You. Another Thank You..
I've figured out what is missing!!! I've figured out what is missing!!!.
21 and in need of help 21 and in need of help.
random thoughts of you... random thoughts of you....
Dear H, I despise your family! Dear H, I despise your family!.
How do I tell him no? How do I tell him no?.
Family Portrait Family Portrait.
question for the gals out there.... question for the gals out there.....
Hope faith and friends Hope faith and friends.
for you Greta.... Use it in good health...lol for you Greta.... Use it in good health...lol.
The end... The end....
Another she really is insane Another she really is insane.
Guy at work Guy at work.
cowboys like us... cowboys like us....
Break Throughs...Anyone? Break Throughs...Anyone?.
To the Special People in my life To the Special People in my life.
OJAR in Kansas City Nov. 19-21st OJAR in Kansas City Nov. 19-21st.
My Life will go on... My Life will go on....
Another day... Another day....
The Road not Taken by Robert Frost The Road not Taken by Robert Frost.
Unanswered Prayers Unanswered Prayers.
Maybe you're right-----Cat Stevens Maybe you're right-----Cat Stevens.
Having an episode. Having an episode..
Observations... Observations....
What an Inspiration... What an Inspiration....
Everybody Hurts by REM Everybody Hurts by REM.
I miss it lots I miss it lots.
One step forward, ten steps back! One step forward, ten steps back!.
Believe by Cher Believe by Cher.
My Healing Process My Healing Process.
I have to be an idiot!!! I have to be an idiot!!!.
re. seeking advise re. seeking advise.
Some of you are an inspiration Some of you are an inspiration.
my heart hurts my heart hurts.
the followup to I'm Nervous the followup to I'm Nervous.
Just a vent Just a vent.
I'll never learn. I'll never learn..
Regret about Commitment Regret about Commitment.
feelings feelings.
all is well... all is well....
How can I help her? I being the a$$ who left. How can I help her? I being the a$$ who left..
Sex Threads Sex Threads.
I had a physical today. I had a physical today..
It's been a bad day. It's been a bad day..
Met a lawyer last night and now ... Met a lawyer last night and now ....
Opposites attract? Opposites attract?.
Herpes Herpes.
papers are filed, I guess I am legally separated now papers are filed, I guess I am legally separated now.
lonely lonely.
What am I thinking?! What am I thinking?!.
Cheater in turmoil Cheater in turmoil.
Introducing the kids to the boyfriend Introducing the kids to the boyfriend.
Can it get any worse... Can it get any worse....
back stabbing friend back stabbing friend.
old eyes old eyes.
Wow.... Wow.....
Have a nice life Have a nice life.
X-mas Gifts from Children? X-mas Gifts from Children?.
Is it cheating???? Is it cheating????.
Will I ever be happy with me? Will I ever be happy with me?.
Jerk or Major Jerk; any difference? Jerk or Major Jerk; any difference?.
She told me she is not responsible for her feelings. She told me she is not responsible for her feelings..
brokenman... brokenman....
HHEEELLLPPP!!!! HHEEELLLPPP!!!!.
You have it all now....including another piece You have it all now....including another piece.
two ways to go about things two ways to go about things.
Still in emotional pain Still in emotional pain.
oh my freaking sweet lil' baby J on the cross oh my freaking sweet lil' baby J on the cross.
Cheaters have no morality Cheaters have no morality.
So today I get the phone call we have all been waiting for So today I get the phone call we have all been waiting for.
Adultry vs law Adultry vs law.
Veterans Day and USMC Veterans Day and USMC.
How considerate of him! How considerate of him!.
having a weak moment.... having a weak moment.....
Gettin Better Gettin Better.
Preparing to be alone Preparing to be alone.
What do you make of this? What do you make of this?.
Oddly some sort of relief Oddly some sort of relief.
Alone I Break (Just Mad Today Thnak U) Alone I Break (Just Mad Today Thnak U).
She'll Leave You With A Smile She'll Leave You With A Smile.
And For The Girls And For The Girls.
Hope This is not "The end" Hope This is not "The end".
For the OJAR girls For the OJAR girls.
FOR KIN heads up bro yeeeeehaaaaa pard FOR KIN heads up bro yeeeeehaaaaa pard.
A life of irony A life of irony.
Trying to stay on track... Trying to stay on track....
Stay or go Stay or go .
blah blah.
Have a nice life Have a nice life.
Have a nice life Have a nice life.
update update.
What happens when an affair ends a marriage? What happens when an affair ends a marriage?.
Re:When will I not be shocked... Re:When will I not be shocked....
Insecurities. Insecurities..
Wife agrees to counseling... more questions than answers Wife agrees to counseling... more questions than answers.
Control Issues! Control Issues!.
Next step Next step.
== ==.
What's your favorite band? What's your favorite band?.
Is there such a thing as soulmates? Is there such a thing as soulmates?.
Appropriate conversation, and WWYD? Appropriate conversation, and WWYD?.
Thank you - all Thank you - all.
Through The trees Through The trees.
Alcohol related.... Alcohol related.....
Don't mind me..... Don't mind me......
getting her off my healthcare getting her off my healthcare.
Is there a right way? Is there a right way?.
Feeling adrift Feeling adrift.
Am I wrong? Am I wrong?.
So, I seem to have acquired a date tomorrow night. So, I seem to have acquired a date tomorrow night..
I was reminded I was reminded.
OPINIONS NEEDED about wife activity OPINIONS NEEDED about wife activity.
A good TV show A good TV show.
To CHO To CHO.
Just wondering..... Just wondering......
Doc is back in town! Doc is back in town!.
Why me? Why me?.
Kin's invitation to an execution has arrived Kin's invitation to an execution has arrived.
West Michigan? West Michigan?.
A question for the guys... A question for the guys....
A year later....:) A year later....:).
curiosity curiosity.
REM REM.
wife had an affair wife had an affair.
The Polar Express:) The Polar Express:).
still emotionally drained still emotionally drained.
WHY? What? How? WHY? What? How?.
I guess I shouldnt be suprised! I guess I shouldnt be suprised!.
Ojar Christmas Card Exchange! Ojar Christmas Card Exchange! .
You sure are ugly You sure are ugly.
when do you know, when to give up? when do you know, when to give up?.
Need Comments Need Comments.
Drinking Drinking.
Tell me this isn't f'ed up Tell me this isn't f'ed up.
outside perspective outside perspective.
new 2 boards and need financial advice new 2 boards and need financial advice.
Filed Friday Filed Friday.
This is kinda hard This is kinda hard.
In case y'all were wondering about my date... In case y'all were wondering about my date....
Ojar is a unique place Ojar is a unique place.
I love this one... I love this one....
Well, I think so anyway... Well, I think so anyway....
Metrosexuals Metrosexuals.
Getting active Getting active.
Do women fall out of love?????? Do women fall out of love??????.
Moving on. Moving on..
It Matters To Me... It Matters To Me....
women, i need your advice women, i need your advice.

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